I have been married for over 10 years. We have no kids. Things were never great, sometimes ok, sometimes bad.
Recently, he told me that he married me out of convience and not wanting to look for someone else.
I used to love him madly but throughout the years my love for him just went away because I have always suspected that he didn't love me as much as I loved him.
I'm seriously considering leaving him. Should I?
Most Helpful Guy
Marriage has nothing to do with being "in love". It is about finding a life partner. Emotions are way to fickle to base a relationship on. Things like trust, respect, and compatibility are way more important.
A lot of people feel pressured into getting married when their friends start all getting married. They figure it is time they got a life partner of their own. The two of you have been married for ten years. His reasons for marrying you just don't matter at this point.
What he thinks and what he does are two very different things. You need to decide if he has been a good husband for the past 10 years or not, and stop worrying about what went on in his head ten years ago. If he is mistreating you or something like that, then I can understand why you would want to get divorced, but not over the reason you are giving us.
People get married for reasons similar or worse than that all the time. Some women have admitted to me they married their husbands just to escape their controlling parents. Some guys get married just to lock down a woman so they can have a steady supply of sex. People get married for money all the time. Marriage is rarely about being in love for both people.2
Most Helpful Girl
I'm really sorry that this is happening! That is a terrible thing to say to anyone. How can he say that he married you out of convenience?
I would have a hard time staying married to someone like that. Like how could he not even consider your emotions? That's a very selfish move. Most people want to get married to someone they love, not just out of convenience.
I would suggest some marriage therapy. Hopefully that can help turn things around. You don't deserve to be stuck in a loveless marriage.0