I really had a lot of feelings for this guy but after the break up all is left is emptiness. Is it normal to feel this way? How can I stop feeling so restless?
Most Helpful Guy
yes its normal. relationships are bonding. the more intimate they are, the more various chemicals in your brain release. Tearing appart is painful and to stop the pain, you go numb. Or you go numb because the relationship was painful in the first place. this is why it makes sense to go slowly with relationships... it is painful when it doesn't work. Takes time to heal.
Restless - that is something else... anxiety. ideally, you should see a professional counselor to work through your feelings, what you learned about yourself, what issues turned up, so you do better next time.
Focus on the following: that by him not being there, it creates space for someone else. Don't jump to the next relationship, take time to process this one emotionally. that is only fair to the next person. Don't get all needy and try to fill the void if you are numb, it won't work.4
Most Helpful Girl
Yea, it happens :( I'm sorry you had to go through that, break ups always suck. It's very normal to feel that way, and really only time can truly make it fade. I think in the meantime you can try to distract your mind by doing other things. Make an effort to go out with friends more, listen to music, find a hobby, and most importantly don't dwell too much on it.2