Long story short. I had a high school sweet heart who I was with for 2.5 years. we always talked about getting married and he told me I was the love of his life. Eventually, he got tired of being in a relationship and broke up with me. He admitted he had cheated on me twice but kept it a secret for a month. after the break up, he told me we were still going to get married and that he was always going to love me. we continued seeing each other for a while and he always treated me as if we were dating, but then admitted he had been using me for sex. he then told me that he had been cheating on his other girlfriend with me and that I should get out of his life because he loved her and not me. he blocked me on all social media and I didn't hear from him until recently he sent me a message asking how I was and telling me how sorry he was for everything he had done and that he took me for granted and that he was never able to find another girl like me. he says he has changed and has left his partying days behind and wants to settle down. should i give him another chance? I never stopped loving him, and he was a great boyfriend before he wanted to party and be single...
- give him another chance, he seems sincere2%(1)5%(5)Vote11%(4)
- if you give him another chance, you will just get hurt again. people like this don't change85%(53)83%(81)Vote78%(28)
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Most Helpful Guy
Don't do it, based on the "4 years" part, the two of you probably aren't even 22. It may be sincere but I doubt he's much different.
I don't believe the "people don't change" thing, it's not true, but he was a huge asshole to you before, so I would be super careful.
For example, I had a friend who was always an asshole to me and my friend and insulted and argued with us for no reason at all, and had problems with us for no reason. We didn't talk for almost 2 years, then started talking again, and I thought he changed. Because he acted like it at first. But after several months it turned out that he didn't, and he did the same shit again, and I decided we would stop talking permanently.
So I mean, if you do still love him, maybe talk to him but don't let him get close to you right away. I think you should just keep your distance for like quite a while actually (like 6-12 months) but keep in contact... if he just wants sex, which is most likely, then he would probably give up or show the same behavior.
Honestly I don't think you should talk to him, but you make it sound like you're going to do it regardless of the answers because you actually want him. If so, just make sure you have boundaries and a lot of self respect and stick to that. Don't be forgiving, get away from him if anything he does reminds you of how he used to be.0
Most Helpful Girl
You've been cheated on, used for sex and been told to disappear from his life and u are still saying give him a chance? No girl. Just no.
he got bored of being in a relationship with u so he decided to cheat on u, not once.. But twice.. Second thing, he cheated on his other girlfriend with you AFTER the break up and then he said he doesn't love you... And now he wants to block you. Honey, he hurt you so much, what did u do to deserve that? From what u wrote, you did NOTHING. What makes u sure he won't get bored of u again and go cheat on u for the third time ( if not more)?
if u REALLY think he's not messing around this time and u think he changed then I have another idea. You could now just enjoy time together. No sex. And no talking about marriage or relationships, just like "friends". Why? Well like that u can try notice the things he changed in himself, and if he's honestly true about what he's saying. And after a month or more, if u see he actually changed and u think u want to give him a chance then... Alright.
I would go with the option of leaving him and not going back again honestly. You can't let someone use you like a doll, coz u aren't.0