My beloved girlfriend dumped me a month ago and it shattered my heart. It's been hell but I've been trying to keep myself busy so I can keep her out of my mind. It is sort of working because I don't really miss her anymore.
However, our old good memories are haunting me. Those flashbacks in my mind are killing me. It hurts me to the point I feel like killing myself and I can't stop them. It's not like I want to think about our memories but they run through my mind every now and then.
Please help me. Will this ever end? I'm trying to move on and I'm making progress but these memories are crushing me :(
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Just got your heart broke? Congratulations you are officially a human being. Welcome! Let me show you what membership in this club has to offer.
1. Time is the only thing that's going to help. You're going to keep remembering your ex not because you actually want her but because your body wants you to want her especially if you haven't met anyone new and worthwhile. Does this mean immediately go find a new girl. No not necessarily just don't let your brain trick you into believing she's the only worthwhile woman alive. It's still working on caveman logic and not acknowledging the super connected social media filled world you live in today.
2. Brace yourself for depression. Your bodies knee jerk reaction to loss is sadness in an effort to force you into rumination in hopes that you come up with a successful strategy to get back whatever was lost. Your choices are to focus on the girl, focus on yourself, or attempt to avoid it all by focusing on other activities and positive thinking.
3. Don't beat yourself up or try to force yourself to do anything. Be nice to yourself your body and mind are just reacting in the best way it can right now. Most people never experience heartbreak enough to develope a good reliable strategy to cope with it but treating yourself negatively is definitely not going to help.
I think that's all I got man. Wish you the best man just don't give up things always change over time and if you want them to get better it eventually will.