I'm a very active person and my girlfriend is very low energy all the time. Doesn't like doing high energy activities, barely ever wants to have sex. She'll lay in bed and let me go down on her and rarely do any other position other than missionary.
Should I break up with her? Her energy is really bumming me out and I don't wanna hurt her feelings.
I really do like her but her energy is really depressing. How should I tell her it's over?
Most Helpful Girl
If you don't feel like you are compatible or have anything in common then yes, it may be a good idea to end the relationship. Couples should have at least some similar interests. If one person wants to go out and be doing something a lot while the other person just wants to stay home all the time, that can lead to some issues. Similarly, if a couple has completely different sex drives, that can also cause problems. Unfortunately, these types of issues aren't always fixable.
Of course communication is important but people can't really fundamentally change who they are, what they like, and something like their sex drive. So, if you think the relationship is not going anywhere and you aren't happy then you should talk to her and explain that.1
Most Helpful Guy
Sounds very much like my ex. It sounds like you've decided already, so you should sit down and let her know what's been troubling you. Be honest, at this stage you have nothing to lose. See how she reacts. She might not realise how it's affecting you and your feelings towards her.
If she offers to do something about it, give her a chance. DON'T do what I did and think you're being a good and supportive guy by letting multiple chances slide with no actual change from her. I lost years of my life to unhappiness that way.1