I went to a party with some female friends, my boyfriend didn't come since it was a girls night out and he went out with his friends somewhere else. I saw an old classmate of mine and while I was talking to him he kept giving me some cups of juice and I didn't know until later that it was mixed with alcohol! One thing lead to another and before I knew it I was in his lap kissing him on a couch. As soon as I realized what was happening I pushed him away and left.
My boyfriend wasn't at the party but one of his friends told him what happened. I confessed but he told me I cheated and he was leaving me. I feel awful and can't eat or sleep I just keep crying. I love him so much and I was not in the right mind frame. I texted him a few times but he didn't respond. We go to the same college and I saw him a few times but he pretends like he doesn't see me and ignores me.
What can I do, I swear I didn't know I was drinking alcohol since I'm still too young, but it impaired me. My boyfriend is the greatest guy ever and I really f-ed up. What can I do?
Most Helpful Guy
What can you do? First of all admit you done goofed and don't push it on the alcohol. There arepeople who have been full-on wasted and opportunities and still managed to refuse someone else. You didn't. Alcohol is not an ecxuse, it doesn't make you do things you wouldn't otherwise. It just decreases your inhibitions.
Secondly you should keep trying to make things up for messing up. Apologise, think of things how to try to get to show him that you mean it, etc. But don't do it daily. He needs some space to let things sink in as well.
And thirdly - lets assume you manage to get him to give you a scond chance - the trust is broken. You don't even start at zero trust but are in the realms of below zero and all that has to be slowly rebuild including him mistrusting you, etc.0
Most Helpful Girl
Well, you could not blame alcohol for the fact you got onto some guys lap and was making out. Even if you couldn't taste the alcohol you could've asked, you're at a party where people are drinking.
You cheated, he's hurt, and how you feel about it means nothing. You aren't eating? You're crying? Well sorry to say - but good. If you weren't like that then you don't care about your actions.
But if you want a chance with him then try and talk to him one last time, apologise one last time, say you'll give him space, but you'll be willing to wai for him because you love him. Tell him you'll not drink again or tell him you'll never talk to that guy again or won't go out partying for a while whatever you have to, show him you're aware of what you did, why it was wrong, and that you're willing to try and fix it.
For me, I can't taste alcohol with soft drink, but I have also drank a fair amount before and just have an intolerance to it. But 1. if someone gives me a drink I ask and 2. anything with juice is really obvious, juice can't cover the taste of alcohol that easily, if anything it highlights it.0