My boyfriend broke up with me because he says that I blow up his phone too much and he just wants to be left alone and have space.. So yesterday he texts me and says " you want to come over today, we aren't together tho, I just miss you and I wanna see you" he just wanted sex. Days before he broke up with me he told me he loved me and he wouldn't like other guys having sex with me and days later he left me so heart broken. He doesn't wanna talk about the problem. I feel like there's more to this situation then just me blowing up your phone, but he won't talk to me. I feel like he's having other issues. And he also so said he wants to have sex for me because he doesn't wanna look for another girl for awhile so he wants to ask me for sex. I'm hurt, I don't know what to do. I don't wanna lose him but then again I don't wanna be used for just sex. How can he tell me he misses me and loves me days before and then break up with me. Help please I'm having a tough time dealing with this situation. I ended up going over when he asked and I tried talking about it and he said no I'm not talking about it. I just called you so we can hangout. We ended up having sex and even after and before he acted exactly the same when we were together. He kisses me good night and he said I'm not allowed to date anyone and he isn't either. I'm confused he's 30 and I'm 25
Most Helpful Guy
This dude is playing games. He knows you hace feelings for him and is using that to manipulate you. Somebody else is likely involved or at least, he's looking and using you as a place holder til he fills that void. Don't play his game, don't be used. Find somebody who'll respect you and put you as a priority and not as an option or rebound. Plus, usually when people start hitting you with that "you text me/contact me too much" that's usually code for they no longer love you anymore because it surely wasn't a problem when y'all first got together and it won't be a problem with any new girl he's with or is talking to1
Most Helpful Girl
Hahahaha, first, my best friend went through this same thing with her boyfriend a couple years ago, and he was completely full of SHIT. He told her she couldn't date anyone but they weren't together. He said she was bothering him too much but he needed space. But he always called her everyday and wanted her to come over. That dude came crawling back after 6 weeks.
I mean, literally, this is the same story she had. Almost exactly the same story. Give him space. Don't talk to him. If he texts you, tell him you need space, too, and that you want to be with him, because you do. And tell him you aren't going to have sex with him. You guys are friends. The end. Be stern.1