Someone who meant a lot to you but hurt you in a way that you really weren't expecting from them. It's been 3 months since I last saw him and sometimes I feel fine, but sometimes the feeling of missing him becomes so unbearable all I can do is cry from this emptiness inside. I never meant anything to him, but he meant everything to me. I was hurting while I was with him and I'm hurting now. I just want to forget but I can't. I've erased all trace of him and I don't see him anywhere, but he's still on my mind all the time. Also, every night there's some kind of stupid dream about him. seems like nothing can help me. not time, not other activities, nothing takes my mind off it. My ego is hurt, my heart is in pieces. When will all this go away. Feel free to share your experience.
Most Helpful Guy
Hello I'm new to this site today for basically the same reason you are on here.. Searching for answers. My personal opinion is there is no real answer to when or how long, what your feeling is going to go away and you can be yourself again. I'm currently in a similar position I was with my sons mother for 4 years and I'll be the first one to admit it was definitely a toxic relationship and us not being together is probably for the best, BUT... Realizing that doesn't make this any easier to go through it's been a little over a month since she left and she is perfectly fine, happy, dating already and I can't even think about texting a girl or hanging out with another girl. I don't eat the same, dont sleep the same, I go to work come home and try to get to bed as soon as possible because sleep is the only time I Dont have to think about it. NOT saying that's your answer to just sleep it off by the way... So anyways I was just letting you know your not alone and your not he only one that feels lost or "paralyzed". I guess I have the same question as you. When will this feeling go away when am I going to actually want to start doing things again and meeting new people and move on? And with what happened that caused the breakup (its a long story I won't bore you to death) I know that I could never be with her again and never forgive her. So with my situation whatever this is I'm feeling "paralyzed" as you called it, it's not that I want her back or want to even think about trying for that matter... Still after a month and a half I'm just as upset as the first day.. Like you said I get by.. I put on my fake smile and go about my day but truth is I'm dying inside and Dont know what to do.. I've tried meeting new people tried talking to a few people but I just quit after a few days because honestly i just have no interest what so ever in talking to anyone. I Dont want to waste there time. Maybe it's because I didn't get closure really? She just said she wasn't happy and that's about it. You said he seemed to be perfectly fine and my situation is the same. We broke up because of something she did and she just had no sympathy what so ever, wasn't sorry, she agreed we needed to break up and said she isn't happy with me and that was it she immediately started talking to someone and is now dating him.. I just wish it could be that easy for me.. Or at least want to do anything at all except lay around miserable.0
Most Helpful Girl
Yes, back in March. It was really bad. I stopped going to work, I didn't cook, I didn't bake, I didn't write, I barely even breathed. I just played the same video game over and over and over again every day. It got to the point where I didn't even take my dog out and she just pissed and shat all over the carpet (yes, I'm very serious). My mom and dad came and cleaned my apartment helped pay my bills, but if I moved from playing my games, I immediately started crying, even if it was to order a pizza or go to the bathroom.
Then he and I got back together and I realized how much he sucked and now I'm fine.0