My aunt passed away a few days ago and i got so depressed and sad but my boyfriend was so cold about it, i texted him so many times that i really need him and he's the only person i wanna be with right now to feel a little better... he only responded to the news of my aunts death with a few words and didn't really try to provide me with any consolation.
these past few days were the times when i needed him the most, but he abandoned me so i left him... was this a wrong decision to make?
Most Helpful Guy
It depends. We'd have to know your boyfriend to answer this. Everyone reacts differently to death. Some don't know how to handle it or what to say/do. It's very possible he didn't mean to be "heartless and inconsiderate", he simply just didn't know what to say or do and feels really uncomfortable. On the other hand, maybe he really was being heartless and inconsiderate because he doesn't care? Only you can answer this though because you know him. You may have felt "abandoned" but maybe wasn't the intent? He might have been just giving you space/time (but you did say you needed him so maybe not?)? If it was truly inconsiderate then of course you did the right thing and don't second guess it. You are just hurting twice, your aunt and now your breakup. You need a boyfriend that is going to be there for you though.1
Most Helpful Girl
It's possible that he simply didn't know how to respond to a death. Some people have a really hard time understanding how to handle situations that involve a death, and that can make them seem colder than they really are. However, I think you probably made the right decision. Someone who won't try to console you when a family member dies isn't showing themselves to be a supportive, emotionally available partner.1