So my boyfriend was on a trip and this particular event hosted a dance on the last day so he said he was gonna go and I'm like "okay cool". Well he starts to tell me how some girl comes up to him unbuttons his shirt and sticks $20 in his shirt and starts grinding on him, but what gets me is that he didn't stop her or anything instead he puts his hands on her and starts dancing along. Is this considered cheating? Or am I overreacting because it feels awful
Most Helpful Guy
If he didn't stick his dick in no not really. Everyone dances really slutty at clubs now so I don't think I would want to date a girl who is into getting drunk and going to clubs all the time haha.
It's scummy to just sit there and dry hump some girl when you're in a relationship, but maybe thats acceptable these days idfk.2
Most Helpful Girl
I'd say so, yes. If he's too weak to tell her off, he doesn't deserve you. Instead, he should be assertive with girls like that. She probably had no idea that he had a girlfriend, so it's not her fault. It's his fault for not doing anything about it. I was in a relationship with a guy who constantly had girls flirting with him, and in particular a girl who wanted to get in between us, but he never told her off, basically leading her on and making her think that what she was doing was okay, and I felt so hurt. I wish I'd broken it off earlier, but he was my closest friend and I didn't want to let him go at the time.
You should let him know how it made you feel and see his reaction. If he gets defensive, it's probably not worth it to stay with him.3