My boyfriend told me a girl grinded on him and he did nothing about it, is that considered cheating?

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So my boyfriend was on a trip and this particular event hosted a dance on the last day so he said he was gonna go and I'm like "okay cool". Well he starts to tell me how some girl comes up to him unbuttons his shirt and sticks $20 in his shirt and starts grinding on him, but what gets me is that he didn't stop her or anything instead he puts his hands on her and starts dancing along. Is this considered cheating? Or am I overreacting because it feels awful

paige678 · Accepted Answer

I'd say so, yes. If he's too weak to tell her off, he doesn't deserve you. Instead, he should be assertive with girls like that. She probably had no idea that he had a girlfriend, so it's not her fault. It's his fault for not doing anything about it. I was in a relationship with a guy who constantly had girls flirting with him, and in particular a girl who wanted to get in between us, but he never told her off, basically leading her on and making her think that what she was doing was okay, and I felt so hurt. I wish I'd broken it off earlier, but he was my closest friend and I didn't want to let him go at the time.
You should let him know how it made you feel and see his reaction. If he gets defensive, it's probably not worth it to stay with him.

Victoriella · Accepted Answer

Anything which affects you emotionally or has a negative affect on you is not considered as overreacting. Regardless of how anyone else feels or views it , you should not accept anything which hurts you or affects you in an emotional way.

You need to set boundaries within a relationship. If not, then people wil treat you as they want. They'll make you live within their own boundaries and standards.

People treat you how you allow them to treat you. This would be a deal breaker for me, so I'd end the relationship. I'd consider it crossing a relationship boundary. I'd never lower my standards and accept any kind of behaviour which disrespects me

That's why it's important to know each others boundaries early on in a relationship

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

If what he says is actually true, I don't think he's cheating, but he's clearly disrespecting you by dancing along. That's not a good sign, and a major red flag.

selmo93 · Accepted Answer

It feels awful as it's disrespectful but not cheating

posted · Accepted Answer

If he didn't stick his dick in no not really. Everyone dances really slutty at clubs now so I don't think I would want to date a girl who is into getting drunk and going to clubs all the time haha.
It's scummy to just sit there and dry hump some girl when you're in a relationship, but maybe thats acceptable these days idfk.

Thomasiv4 · Accepted Answer

No its not cheating. BUT, if it bothers you then let him know that you don't want no ratchet ass girls grinding on him. lol but seriously. communication is key in relationships or your both going to end up on different grounds and eventually break up.

Anonymous · Answer

Probably didn't know how to handle it. Something similar happened to me on the subway during rush when some teenage girl with her friends watching put her butt up against my crotch and started rubbing up against my penis, when it was over they all laughed about it and pointed at the obvious stain on trousers. I had to go home and change and was late for work.

Shaft50 · Answer

I wouldn't consider it cheating but he could have displayed a bit of self-discipline and told her he's taken... but, there was no kissing, no groping, no sex...

Papier · Answer

If he literally told you that with no regret whatsoever I don't think he considers it cheating.  Think about that.

Anonymous · Answer

man ya got some low bars my girl cheated on me with hundreds of guys oh wait that was in the beginning so I dont care

hotstuffSRD · Answer

Time to find a new boyfriend  I think he's giving you a signal that he wants to break up :P

Anonymous · Answer

I would be upset too! I definitely think it was wrong of him to not stop her, and to go along with it.

Anonymous · Answer

i thought guys and girls were allowed to be "just friends", am i wrong?

Zendrya · Answer

I would say yes it is.

desidoll · Answer

To me yes, because he did nothing to stop her.

datgirl · Answer

Wow, I would consider breakin up tbh

TheButterfly · Answer

It's a really shitty thing to do

bcromartie · Answer

Yes.

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