Then what should the husband do who belonged to a traditional n cultural soceity (where promiscuity before marraige is a sin) and was virgin till marraige? Now when the secret of his wife comes out after marraige in front of the soceity their reputation n respects went down? How should the family face the situation? Yes the wife confessed about the accusition n said that she hid her past because she wanted to get married to a good n respected family n also wanted to marry a virgin anyway and her honesty might have caused to to break the marraige. Is it selfish n unfair to the husband n his family who are shattered after this?
Most Helpful Girl
Yes this is indeed very selfish because she should have said all of this way before they got married. This is why I always say and advocate to PLEASE find these things out BEFORE you get exclusive in dating/courting for marriage. Because what she has committed is marriage fraud. Reputation in society is not really going to matter to a lot of people, except question this: why? How come you never questioned this before? Etc. This is just flat out wrong. In truth I cannot tell you or anybody how this should be handled. But she is never going to be looked at with respect for a while until she has proven herself that she will not stray from the marriage and will do what is right for now on. Those are part of her vows as a married woman. Even though she was not a virgin before marriage, the abortion, and her past however must be addressed. This sadly is failure on both parties. If he sensed and believed there were things she was hiding, he shouldn't have continued dating her until she comes clean or don't at all. At this point there is nothing that can be done, accept be slow to anger, forgive and move on with the wife. I'm sure the family and husband is shattered, and they have every right too. But this is not the time for the family to turn against the other, this is the time for the family to come together in unity and help them overcome the issues that the wife had to experience. This is the time for encouragement and for her to learn from her mistakes about lying. And hopefully will teach their future children to not make that same mistakes.0
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Most Helpful Guy
Yes, that is indeed a very selfish act on her part. What is good is that she confessed it herself, but still that doesn't mean that she deserves forgiveness, all these things a person should say this before marriage and not after marriage.
Normally what happens in a traditional family or a traditional husband would rather have a thinking that let's put the past behind and concentrate on making the marriage work. Whereas a modern person would not be able to tolerate this and will mostly likely divorce the other person.
Hence I would say irrespective to whether the family is modern or traditional the logically right choice would be to divorce her or annul the marriage.0