Do you think admitting your true feelings to someone is like... Detrimental? Or like putting yourself in a position to be taken advantage of?

[MrLi0n]

Everyone has pride, everyone has a protective wall up to Guard against their feelings and emotions. Some of us believe that when you admit your deepest feelings and emotions to your partner, you stand a great chance of breaking up & losing them forever or even having them take advantage of you in the relationship. Basically having them miss treat you in the relationship.
Almost like the rumor about getting someone's name tattooed on you, iI've always been told to never get a girls name tattooed on me because it's almost like admitting ownership and it's always like jinxing the relationship. I was told that by tattooing their name on your body is basically putting yourself in harms way to lose them forever. I don't know how true that is but I believe it personally.
What I'm trying to say is... I've often herd that by telling your significant other things like this...

(I... I think I'm in love with you. Everything you do and say to me excites me and you mean the world to me! I don't know where my life would be without you and I would probably die if you walked out of my life)

Blah blah blah all that deep emotional stuff😳🙄
you guys get the picture though. I was told by admitting things like that your basically giving someone power over you to command or mistreat you.

do you ladies and gentlemen agree with me? Or do you think it's not really a big deal to admit your deepest feelings to your significant other?

I think there are certain feelings we must keep to ourselves in a relationship

I'm not superstitious, I'd tell my partner the truth about how he/she makes me feel inside

[AriadneSky]

I would not find provide in hiding how i feel out of fear. tat would feel pathetic. i think if sure at risk of exploitation bc of expression then you're with the WRONG person. so be honest find out they suck and move the fuck on lol

some people will treat you badly bc you're honest. thee people would also treat yo badly if you lie. you can't compare bc once yu do one you have not done the other. comparing reactions o diff actions with different people is not a real comparison so there's no way to know.

instead of worn how people react i try to stuck to my own nor code and let the chips fall where they may.

keep in mind if you want a fling then sure appeal to the general loves common shallow denominator. but if you want a real connection you have to be real and expect to go trough a lot of jerks trying to protect their 'pride' in strange ways.

guarding your ride i think mens acting in brave upright way. not playing games bc you're scared.

[AriadneSky]

"pride" not provide :)

[kaylaS91]

I don't think that confessing your feelings to someone, be it for the first time, or just reminding them of how you feel after you're already committed, is detrimental. I don't see how doing that could be done with any kind of intention to hurt someone. It might make you feel vulnerable for a bit, before you know if you'll receive the same amount of interest in return, but...
Not many worthwhile things were achieved without risk.

The risk of rejection is one I've been and continue to be more than willing to take rather than guarantee having to live the rest of my life alone and without someone else by my side.

[MrLi0n]

Wow that was good.

[AriadneSky]

I didn't think the risk he was referring to was about rejection, but about being seen as soft or weak or easy to manipulate IN a relationship.

#Asker are you asking about rejection or manipulation?

[MrLi0n]

@AriadneSky manipulation

[kaylaS91]

.. how would admitting your feelings to someone equate to manipulation, though? I fail to see the connection. There's a difference between feelings not being reciprocated and actively being manipulated.

[MrLi0n]

When you expose your true emotions to a lot of girls in Los Angeles CA, where I live, they tend to think your too soft, weak, a kitten, a nice innocent guy that's easily played or fooled because he wears his heart on his sleeve.

There are soooo many females that I would have loved to tell them what I feel When I see their face, smell their perfume, how my heart skips a beat when I hear their name's or the sound of their voices, but unfortunately it's smarter for me to keep my deepest feelings to myself because a lot of women tdke kindness for weakness and will lie & cheat and even steal things from me. They'll begin to feel as if try ll be no co sequences if they hurt my feelings or betray me. They assume that sweet words and a sappy apology will get them back on good grounds with me because weak niggas will easily and quickly forgive a woman with a pretty face, nice ass, big tits and/or a pretty face. Thus this was the main reason for my question.

[MrLi0n]

As a man I have to often hide my true emotions from women, my emotions of love and deep compassion and poetic words. Women often have the power to dangle their bodies and their presences over men's heads, nobody wants to lose their beautiful girl, for some of us it's difficult to win beautiful women over because your options in men are almost limitless!

(Example) if your attracted to me but I say no I won't date you, your worlds not over, lol they'll be another sexy guy who's probably better than me that will come along and be your Prince Charming. Thus your options are almost limitless in guys

[kaylaS91]

... no. This whole idea of how girls specifically living or socializing with guys in the LA areas view men who expose their 'true emotions' will prey on you as if they're black widows or something, is what you WANT to believe to rid yourself of any of the blame.
Which we all know is a crazy, very outlandish idea in reality but.. whatever helps you sleep better at night. 😚

[MrLi0n]

Lmao... I LIVE! in LA man. Not ALL women are like that but a lot of them are... I don't have this kind of problem because I don't really tell people my true emotions, you've gotta catch me slippin, like when I'm drunk. Or you have to have know me for a while, almost half a year, I do that to avoid inviting the wrong people into my life. People who will only want my money or my accessories, car, house, etc... Free ride through life.

[kaylaS91]

Interesting that you feel so confident in broadcasting these opinions of yours regarding a lot of L. A. women that just so happen to perfectly fit into and support the stereotypes that would come to mind for most when they're told to imagine a girl from California. Yet.. you don't really tell people your true emotions in the first place?

I'm curious how you managed to form such opinions based off of zero anecdotal evidence of your own. Ngl but it sounds like you just read a bunch of opinions that are along the same lines of what you wish were the absolute truth, then decided that must be reality.

[MrLi0n]

Personally I don't give a shit lol I got exploited once when I was a teenager and I never let it happen again, they way I stopped it was by not telling a girl how much she means to me, & by having a nonchalant Attitude towards our relationship together, it may hurt me dearly inside if she but it's a rare occasion that I'll express myself and let her know because I often believe it gives emotions often give other humans power over you and your actions... Sometimes it's best to say "SO WUT!"😤 And keep it movin if I know you love me deep enough I might beable to manipulate you and get you to do anything I say! And it's not just in LA! that's all over the world! I was using LA as an example cuz it happens so often here and it's right in your face when your here around the people you know like friends and family

[MrLi0n]

@Mustachekitteh @taraborelli1997 @redeyemindtricks
@COCOCHANEL
@iFarted if I've mentioned you it's probably because I respect you & like talkin to you and I usually look for your opinion when I jump in a post. The reason I called you out is so you can say something smart & wise & do you can see what I mean when I talk about keeping your deepest emotions to yourselves in relationships. Ladies do it to with some guys cuz some guys hate all that I love you sappy shit and when a girl starts falling inlove, the guy cuts her off cuz he will claim he doesn't have time for love and the consequences that come with it. People manipulate you when they know how much you care for them and how far you'll go just to keep them

[MrLi0n]

I have a feeling this is about to turn into a argument or a shit talking event cuz Kayla is a smart mouth, I've seen her in action in other post. She's almost at that age where she thinks she knows everything and she's always right... Something also tells me she's taking it personally like I'm just attacking all women in LA or some shit. If there were a woman's rally or somthing she'd be front line with a picket sign lol

[kaylaS91]

lol you're hilarious. Go spend some more time on r/theredpill. I think you'd find that suits your views perfectly.

[Mustachekitteh]

No because if you don't tell them everything that means you don't fully trust them. That along with feeling comfortable enough to even tell them, which means you don't really love them that much.

[MrLi0n]

Females in general hide their deepest emotions end secrets lol

[Mustachekitteh]

Then they really trust and feel comfortable around the dude they don't and tell everything.

My boyfriend knows all about my deepest dark secrets and I know his.

[Taraborelli1997]

If I'm in a relationship with someone I'm going to be a 100% honest with them about everything if they decide not to stick around that's there problem not mine. I am a believer of everything happens for a reason

[jjesica346]

I agree that you have to filter what you say to an extent. It is power and no matter how close you are, always remember it can be used in a negative manner. We all get petty out of anger.