I'm sorry if this is too long, I'll try and keep it short. Me and my boyfriend were going out for 7 months. We got on so so well! We had been friends before we started seeing each other and we had a real connection. Things started to get a bit rocky over the last month or so and to be honest we were only meeting up once or twice a month for sex. We were still in contact and would talk on the phone but we really weren't seeing much of each other. He is scared of relationships but he always said how happy I made him and that he would commit someday but wanted to take it slow. I held on for a while hoping that maybe things would change and it was pretty upsetting. My family hating seeing my cry and so miserable so they messaged him on Facebook telling me to leave me alone. He told me it would be best if he walked away and it was good between us while it lasted. He then blocked me :(
My cousin was quite rude to him to be honest and my mum told him to block me. He text me on whatsapp saying he treated me really badly and I'll realise that Then it'll be time to talk if I still want to. My mum and him were still messaging on Facebook at this point and he said he was so sorry, he wishes he could make it up to me and if there was anything he could do she was to let him know. My mum told him if he could make me happy then she wouldn't stand in his way. He told her how much he cared about me and that he would have a serious think about it. He said he can't deny how well we get on and it would make my mum smile if she saw it, which is true. He Kept saying how much he cared about me and he wants to make it right.
Do do you think we have a chance at all? I really really want to give us another go!!
Most Helpful Guy
First your family interfering in all this most likely isn't helping and maybe doing the opposite effect of repelling him further. They're increasing pressure on him, increasing the drama, and making the whole relationship seem heavy.
Heavy is not what you want post-breakup and especially in this situation with a guy who was reluctant to commit. It's the precise opposite of what you want.
You generally want to go for light, easy-going, friendly, attractive. You cannot reason with an ex to come back to you. Reason is not what makes them miss you. You generally cannot bring back an ex by merely saying you care so much about them. That doesn't necessarily make them miss you and it can even have the opposite effect where, if they don't feel exactly the same way at the moment, they might feel like they need to stay away from you to let you move on.
Don't scare off your guy. If anything, you want to be more inviting than ever before, easier to see, easier to have fun with. At least you're the one who called it off which makes the odds of getting back together a little better than usual when you want him back, but reduce the drama, reduce the heaviness, reduce the pressure, and try to give some time for things to settle. Maybe you can send him a very friendly invite at some point asking to hang out. If you do, and you manage to get to the bedroom, try to make it a passionate night he'll remember.1
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Most Helpful Girl
I can really relate to you post at this point in time, and I get where you're comin from. Personally, I think he should really prove himself, and show that things will be different before you take him back. I'm sure you miss him, but if you cave in and take him back before he makes a change, you're gauranteed to be dealing with the same thing that hurt you in the first place. Seeing eachother once a month is not a relationship, it's an arrangement; one that im sure you didn't sign up for. If things will be different, then sure, give it a shot.0
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