Boyfriend of five years and I broke up in June as he wasn't sure what he wanted anymore. I think he was stressed/depressed due to work issues and started taking it out on our relationship. He has cut me off since, not one word out of him. I have tried lots and doing no contact now on day 18 trying to leave him alone as obviously being alone is what he wants. Breaks my heart so much and I just want him to reach out even once would be nice. It's just weird thinking he won't speak to me again and we was about to buy a house together, even had a house offer down.
I just really miss him and keeping busy and working on myself etc just isn't working.
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I'm sorry you're going through this, as I have had the same sadness of being left/cut off by the girl I love... for 10months. And each day hurt really bad.
Moving on was the most advice I got!
Time was probably the second.
Work on yourself was probably the third.
Hated it all, and everyone that fed me the same advice. Didn't help. I was in misery &I all anyone could give me were generic answers that pretty much still left me, never knowing if she'd talk to me again.
Here's what I'm going to tell you, NC is what will probably help you. IT WILL be hard, very hard. But congrats on making day 18. I always use NC of 21-60 days ", 60 being the most extreme of course. It won't help much, but at least having a set time frame will give you some strength in this.
Now in this time frame, you will be working on yourself, it's cliche, but needed. You will better work on your
-wealth (finances, financial stability)
-health ( workout, better body, eat healthier)
- relationship ( small amount of time each day to figure out what might've caused the split)
It will be very hard! I do want to stress that. It's never easy having someone leave you in confusion and sadness. I could barely survive a day, heck, every minute, every damn hour was a struggle. Every pic, tv show, memory, similar name, made me tear up.
Now once day 45-60 hit! I'd be surprised if he hasn't reached out by then. But if he hasn't, this is when you will be reaching out. It gives him and you time. And if you've been working on yourself in all 3 areas, you will be well prepared for contact to get back your lover of 5years.0
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