My boyfriend and I have been dating for about three months now. I loved him near the beginning but now all my feelings for him are gone. Everything he does annoys me, and I have to pretend that I still do love him. I haven't seen him in three weeks due to the lack of feelings I have. I want to break up with him, but I'm guilted into staying. He used to have a bad drug problem, and I'm the reason he cleaned up and has plans for his future. Whether or not he'll complete those plans is still in question, but he loves me a lot, and I don't. I know I would want the person to break up with me if they didn't love me, but I don't want him to spiral out of control because I broke his heart.
What should I do?
Most Helpful Guy
It's very understandable that you have some hesitation about breaking up because it can be uncomfortable. However, there is nothing unusual or cruel about breaking up.
Any feelings you have, are okay to have. It's also okay to change. it sounds like you're really sure you're one and if so, I would definitely break up. However, if you stay a while that's okay too. Your discomfort will grow and you will eventually end up leaving. I don't suppose you'll marry him and have his babies out of guilt.
So leave not, or leave later when it becomes unbearable, either is fine.
With regards to him, he will be just fine. He has made those positive changes himself. You inspired him to do it perhaps but he did it himself, so he will be just fine. If I were him, I would want you to break up so I could get moving with my new life.
Hope this helps.0
Most Helpful Girl
If he spirals, that is his fault. He needs to learn how to control himself and stand on his own two feet. You can always keep tabs on him and make sure that he gets help when he needs it, but I don't think you should suffer for his lack of independence. Make like Idina Menzel, and Let It Go1