spill your stories sweethearts :P
Most Helpful Guy
Oh man... I hate remembering this😖 Probably around 16 or so I was talking to this girl named Jill, just over the phone, we'd never met (the Internet wasn't really around yet👴🏻). Before texting, teenagers were kind of notorious for always being on the phone talking to friends, etc, and this was one of those deals, we'd just chill and talk about random stuff on the phone, and we got along pretty well. Eventually we decided to meet up and see a movie. I met her and friend a friend at a nearby mall. I remember waiting by the fountain outside of the theater and they came up and were walking around looking for me, and the friend called her out by name, seemingly intentionally, and I'm just sitting there like "Mehhh... I was hoping she'd be hotter." So I'm debating if I even ID myself to her, but they came up and asked me if I was Steve, and I said "yes", and we went in to the movie, Batman Forever if I remember correctly😂 So we just sat there in the dark kind of awkwardly, the movie ended, and I was nice enough to her I guess, but didn't really go all in. We said our goodbyes and hugged, and our respective parents showed up to pick us up, haha, I didn't have a driver's license yet. I don't know, as I remember she wasn't even terrible looking, solid 7/10 if we're putting numbers on it, but for whatever reason I thought I was too cool for anything short of a '10', because so many of them were banging my door down, right?🙄😂 But I didn't have the heart to just tell her I just wasn't really into her. So, in my infinite teenage wisdom, I decided that the best move was to be a major league douchebag until SHE stopped talking to ME😒 I think I knew her through some other chick I hooked up with for a while earlier, pretty sure they were cousins. I think the first chick got a boyfriend at one point and shut me off from hooking up but was like "here, call my cousin."😂😂😂 Anyway, I didn't call her much for a while, then I found out she and her cousin got in some kind of physical fight, just about other shit. Not like a knockdown drag-out, but some hair probably got pulled and maybe one punch was thrown, just a brief minor dust-up. But the next time the girl called I just was wicked mean to her for no reason and I started saying "I heard Crystal kicked your ass" and making fun of her for it, etc. She started crying and hung up, and we never spoke again. Like it was so cruel I still can't believe that was me who did it.1
Most Helpful Girl
I don't like breaking up with people in messed up ways, that always just makes me feel bad since I don't like hurting peoples feelings so I try to do it gently. Haven't had good experience with that though -
When I'd recently turned 18 I started going out with guy online (if you could call it that since we never actually met up), I didn't really want to from the start but he kinda talked me into it. The next day I thought "That's it, I've got to break up with him, I'm not dating someone online, he seems nice and all but I just don't like him that much in that way anyway" but then I found out it was his birthday and felt bad so decided to maybe give it a week and see how I felt.
Week passed, still wanted to break up but didn't know how as he seemed so nice to me and so happy about being together. 9th day, he barely spoke, 10th day I had the courage to gently try break up with him. He of course took it badly and was like "You could've just told me you didn't want to see me anymore" and saying stuff like "Well the past few days have been the best of my life but... meh". Did not take it well, I tried doing it gently but I still managed to upset him and felt really guilty about it.
The next year, still 18, started going out with a guy who was 16. We weren't official though and didn't do anything inappropriate since I was unsure about the age gap though he didn't really care. We were more or less going out anyway though I did have my doubts sometimes and wasn't sure if it would last long due to his kind of personality, but I thought things seemed to actually be going really well.
He said he was happy to wait for me until he was 17 and I said I'd still be loyal in the mean time and he promised the same, but long story short, ended up cheating on me with a female friend of his because he "wasn't good at waiting for people". He wasn't going to tell me but I managed to figure it out myself and he admitted it on fb to me.
It ended with me being annoyed, humiliated and disappointed and telling him I hated him, and him telling me he still loved me and blah blah blah. I didn't believe any of that though - You don't cheat on someone you truly love. You love someone that much? You'd be cool with dating them and them being loyal to you but waiting 3 months before making it official.
I'm unsure what to do with my current boyfriend as I'm in between thinking "Maybe it's best to break up" & "Maybe I should give him another chance"1