I wanna break up with him but I dont want to hurt his feelings at all
break up is the best thing for us because we have very different views
and we fight every day but he always say sorry
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Great question! I know it’s easy to get trapped in thoughts about what will happen when we break the bad news to somebody.
However, it’s easy to see he’s not happy either. It sounds like he is being argumentative and then regretting it and that this repeats over and over. Now, of course you play a part in the arguments as well given that you choose to participate in them, but if you feel a lot of negativity around this relationship, it may be time to end it.
I would recommend doing a bit of work on yourself before leaving however. You might get a lot of benefit from really rooting out any negative thoughts you have about him, before finally deciding. The reason is that frequently, when we leave a situation because of negative experiences, the negative thoughts we have around it, cause us to attract a very similar relationship quickly.
Don’t you know people who seem to be dating the same person over and over? And it’s a different person but it might as well be the same one because they end up with the same problems over and over?
This won’t happen if you really reach a place where you can look at him with love and be thinking about why you got together in the first place and not have any negative emotions around him. Stop entering into arguments and just keep thinking about when you guys were happy.
When you are pretty stable in this state of mind and no longer get angry or upset, then if you leave, you’ll not only have an easy time breaking up; you’ll also be able to move on very quickly.
Does this make any sense to you? I hope it provides a bit of perspective.
Best of luck.