She was my 1st love and we were in a relation for over 5 years before she left me. We were dating since we were 16 and the closest I ever felt to someone. To me everything was perfect until we left for college. After 3.5 years of relationship I had to move to another state to continue studies. We had a 1.5 years of long distance relationship and we had everything planned for her to move in with me then out of nowhere she broke up with me. Everything was normal. Nothing was different. She stopped talking to me for 2 days and on 3rd she said she like someone else and never talked or reply any of my call, text or email. After 1yr she broke up with that guy and now she wants to get back with me. She herself did not call me. Her friend contacted me to say that she is gulity and wants to get back only if I want. I am in a relationship right now, and she is really sweet. But since I got that friends call, she is the only thing I can think about. I have mixed emotion about her which is comfusing me so much. Please HELP me... I need your advise, what should I do?
Most Helpful Girl
She wasn't there for you. Don't lose something good over something that USED to be good. Obviously things have changed, and the both of you have changed. You would never be able to get back into that relationship without feeling the constant doubt that she's going to leave you again. And that doubt comes from good reasoning. College is so different from high-school, its a lot more serious now.
You're definitely a very sweet and nice guy who's fully capable of looking for a relationship of his own. Don't go down this road again.
There's a chance she's just crawling back after something bad happened with her previous relationship, or whatever might have happened. Either way, that's drama you definitely don't need in your life.
Don't overthink how great things used to be. Think how great your life is now, and how to progress from there.
Most highschool relationships don't last long distance, call it a good run and allow both of yourselves the benefit of growing up. If it really is meant to be, it will happen after time.
Don't make rash decisions based on her guilt and remember that she didn't even have the guts to be straight forward and tell you she was ending things with you. Remember that she never gave you a good reason to end things, nor has she given you a good reason to get back.
She's not as perfect as you are imagining. Your life is good now.
Don't get played man.1
Most Helpful Guy
she's probably only crawling back to you because the other guy dumped her ass. I doubt she dumped him to pursure you. Besides, she didn't even care enough to tell you herself
It seems like you care about her more than she does about you and she knows that.5