No contact should be no contact, who split up with who? My ex dumped me a 5-6 weeks ago and I've decided to not wish her a merry Christmas or happy new years. I was deeply in love with her and we were together for a year. That's my plan at least. Sorry for the breakup, I know how much it sucks.
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He split up with me a month ago tomorrow. I shouldn't because i love him like crazy. He totally broke my heart too.
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I know how hard it is :(, I've been doing my absolute best at moving on and have even started dating again (mostly to help with moving on), but I'm still completely in love with her and think about her all the time. Sometimes I want her back like nothing else and other times I hate her for abandoning the relationship. I think its good to talk about these things to show that it's normal to feel this way and to miss and love someone who meant the world to you even they don't feel the same about you. There's nothing more that I want to do (and I'm sure it's the same for you) then go to her place right now talk and makeup and have everything be the way it was but better. Just because you want it, it doesn't mean it's going to happen. Your ex left you therefore if he does care enough about you he will reach out and since the only thing you want from your ex is to be in a relationship with him again, agreeing to anything else will only diminish your self worth and your needs.
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You should do whatever you feel is right to move on. Never do anything that will set you back, even for a day because the cycle is just going to keep repeating. For instance about an hour ago my ex's mom sent me a text saying it's national care day and she wanted to let me know that she cares about me (she was always on my side and knew how much I loved and cared about her daughter, she really wanted me to be her son-in-law and so did I) which is so sweet, but also hurtful at the same time since it's bringing back all the feelings. After she sent me that, I wanted to look at old pictures of my ex and I together, but I didn't because I knew longterm it wasn't good for me. You know that long term sending a card to your ex is no good. What do you expect is going to happen? Even if you know what you fantasize is ridiculous and it will never happen, if you set things in motion you're only going to set yourself up for disappointment.
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Thank you. I appreciate your words and advice. Its so hard to go from talking everyday to silence. I know my ex probably expects me to contact him tomorrow since its Thanksgiving, but nope. I guess ill keep my distance indefinitely...:-(
Hopefully my silence shakes him up a bit. Because before this break up our relationship was pretty damn good... i just think he has commitment issues. Im not holding my breath. I can't date anyone else yet, i went on a date and i felt awful... i mean i had a, great time and it was with a guy I've known forever, but i feel incredibly guilty. And i shouldn't. This moving on thing sucks. But time will tell who will be in our lives - +1 y
You're making the same mistake that I was. You can't keep on to this hope that his commitment issues will change and that he'll realise how special you are and that you two will end up back together. You need to get rid of that hope, otherwise it's just going to prolong your suffering. He most likely does miss you and wants to talk, but it doesn't mean he will because in his head he made the right call, the good outweighed the bad and he will never want to get back with you unless that changes. It's not going to change. It's over. I'm sorry if I'm being blunt but you need to hear the truth. Why are you wasting time being sad over someone who wasn't willing to put up a fight for you? You're better off without him, you deserve to have people in your life that want you to be a part of their lives, don't ever forget that or your self worth. I know how weird it is dating someone knew, constantly comparing them to your ex. For instance the girl that i've been seinf is so fucking sweet and
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caring, basically the opposite of my ex. My ex was coldish and hated cuddling or showing a lot of affection. There are so many other aspect that I know the new girl is better at than my ex and yet here I am wanting to break it off with the new girl because I'm not in love with her like I was with my ex (how could that even be possible when we've only known each other for 3 weeks haha). However, it's still an eye opener for me. Knowing that there are girls out there who have similar interests and expectations when it comes to their partner. It really gives you hope that there is someone out there for you and you should really focus on finding that person. Now you have the freedom to find a guy out there who's probably better in every way.
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My ex was like the perfect piece to my puzzle. We each brought a kid to the relationship and we had like this great parenting team thing down. We had so many things in common and also things that we taught each other about our hobbies etc. He loved cuddling and he loved being wirh me. He not only told me he loved me but showed me all the time in little things. We appreciated each other and made time for each other away from kids. but yet he got scared away by the prospect of moving in together. i pushed too hard on the subject. I know he still loves me. Maybe im stupid to hold on, im trying to move on and each day is better... im trying to work on me and whether its him or someone else, ill better better form of me.
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I know it's hard when you find someone like that you fully believe if you handled things a bit differently and if situations were different you two had a real shot at a long happy life together. You're probably replaying the entire relationship over and over again figuring out where it all went wrong, what was the catalyst for the breakup etc,. My ex was about to move to another country in about 4 months and I kept pressuring her into staying and for us to take the next step (live together). Same thing with her though, she wasn't ready. No one can ever change that, it's done, what had to happen happened. Look I'm sure you really did your best and that you gave him everything you had to offer, but it just wasn't what he wanted and you can never change that. You should take solace knowing that you gave it everything and if it was meant to be it would have been, since that didn't happen it was simply not meant to be.
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i guess i dont give up on love that easily. like i said, im doing what i know i need to fix in me... if its him or someone else so be it.
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