The girl I dated casually for a month recently dumped me for an older and richer guy. When we began dating, everything was great but during the last two weeks before I was dumped she lost interest in me. I tried to make it work but it just did not work out.
One night she told me we need to talk. She told me she is looking for a husband and someone to settle with. She claimed I was great but too young for her and that is why it is unfair to continue such a relationship. She added that she is going to be actively looking for a man that is much older than her, wants a family and has a stable job. Fair enough. She concluded with words that when is actively looking, she finds guys very quickly. At that moment I thought she wants to get married ASAP, first come, first serve type of deal. And I was almost right. I felt bad for her. After she dumped me, it did not take a week for her to get together with another guy. That guy is 9-10 years older than I am, a somewhat famous DJ and a CEO of an apartment complex. I can't help but to think that she is a gold digger. All of her previous boyfriends were rich foreign men and this one was not an exception.
In the end I just felt bad for myself that I was dumped and now I can't find a girl. Been dating a few but nothing serious.
Weeks have gone past but I still hold a grudge against her. Am I being immature? The break up itself does not hurt me as much as the fact that she got together with a rich dude so quickly and that she was probably talking to him while we were dating. :( I feel used and worthless. I see her quite often at school and I act neutrally towards her, just greet her and that is it. Sometimes I just want to call her out on being a gold digger but that would be immature and just make things worse.
Some people say I dodged a bullet so I should be happy she is not my problem anymore. What do you think, people? Any advice
Most Helpful Girl
Yes, any and every grudge is immature. It shows that you never loved her. If you did, don't how grudges. Because real mature love doesn't hold them. You may feel used and abused right now, but you need to be better than that. And people who said that you dodged a bullet is right. Because if she can leave you for a richer and older guy, that goes to show you what she is about: using people.
You don't need somebody like that and is a user. She gave you nothing but excuses!
Too young for her?: Then why was she with you? Obviously, she doesn't love you.
looking for a husband?: Full of crap, she had you. What was the excuse? For experience?
someone to settle with?: Not if she divorces the guy once he signs the papers!
And this guy is supposed to be a DJ, house complex and what? Gold digger. She wants status and money. She is crazy. Be glad she is gone! Not your problem. You're going to have to detach from her and move on. Find somebody better than her. Just like she likes to replace guys, so can she be easily replaced.1
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Most Helpful Guy
no it´s just dumb. you should be VERY happy that you got rid of her and are now free for a decent girl.1