So me & my Ex have been broken up for a month... I've been doing the no contact rule for almost a month (I have one more week to go). He broke up with me, I feel like he doesn't know exactly what he wants & then life got in the way of things too. Plus, we stay 2 hours from each other & it was just difficult. We were best friends for 6 years & together for 3 years. I wanted to text him maybe after a month of not talking to him & I wanted to know if I should & how should I go about doing it? Before the new year comes, I want to know who to cut completely out of my life, & who to keep in my life. I was going to wait until he contacted me first, but I feel like I'm giving him power or whatever & I don't want to be that girl sitting by the phone waiting for him to make the first move. Plus, this is something I want to do for myself.
He claimed that maybe we were bad timing & maybe it would work out in the future, but I don't want to fall for that if its a trick, & I really don't want a relationship at this point anyway. I want to focus on me more, but I still care about him & love him, I just want to text him something simple & ask if he really wants a friendship. I don't want a sometimey friendship from him (fake) or an awkward friendship. Because if its not going to be genuine, then I'll just cut ALL ties with him & move on altogether. I feel like we'll be better off as friends, I'm not completely over him, I don't think I ever will be to be honest. But at least I could try to get over him & still keep him as a friend, its not like I'm going to be seeing him anyway since we stay 2 hours from each other. So that could help me get over him. But what do you guys think? Good idea or no? & please help me on how I should go about contacting him & when. I want to do this for me, I don't want to throw away everything if we had a REAL friendship. And IF it ever led back to a relationship, I want to make sure we take our precious time & grow before we try a relationship again.
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It's your choice is it going to make you happy?
Like happy not right now but is it going to make happy in long term. If yes sure go ahead.
He's been your friends with you. He will understand. Just try explaining in person. Just try explaining!0