So many people assume that you shouldn't be as hurt if you're the one who's breaking it off... but having just gone through breaking up with someone myself, I don't see how anything could be harder than this. On top of the grieving of the relationship and missing the other person, there's a huge sense of guilt in knowing that you're causing all of this, and that there's no one to blame but yourself, even if the reasons for calling it off were legit.
I would much rather be the one who's been dumped, rather than do the dumping...
- To be the one initiating the break upVote A
- To be broken up withVote B
Most Helpful Guy
Well I've never had a relationship so I've never had a break up. But I've had situations where I ended it with girls I was seeing and ones who ended it with me and I say ones where they ended it with me whether they ghosted me or just flat out said excuses, sorry this isn't working out or I'm not interested in pursuing this.
While hearing I'm not interested anymore is better than being ghosted, you still over analyze and wonder what the fuck you did for them to end it with you. If they ended it with you, it was for a reason.0
Most Helpful Girl
Both are painful because no one wants a relationship to fail. In both scenarios you feel a sense of loss and you miss the person being part of your life. Yiu have to rebuild your life either way , but I do think being when your SO ends the relationship it's so much more painful because you feel rejected , and rejection is excruciatingly painful. You don't face the pain of rejection if you end it yourself , your partner does2