So my ex of a little over a year broke up with me six months ago. Ashamed to say the breakup was horrible. I was a basket case/he was an asshole. I later found out he had cheated on me before the breakup so it kind of changed the dynamic of the breakup. I was pissed to find out that I was not only being broken up with but also Had been cheated on. We had our disagreements (mainly about his drinking) but I didn't feel like any of that justified the breakup or him cheating. I'm either crazy or just truly love this guy but I can't let go. We can't go more than three weeks without seeing eachother. For six months we see eachother on and off. He has made it clear he doesn't want a relationship, and I respect his decision. I'm an adult so I know what I'm doing and have zero reason to be mad at him for not committing. He knows I want to be together whenever the time is right, and I feel like we're playing a waiting game. He came over tonight and got super weird. Haven't seen him in three weeks until tonight. He said he wanted to leave and then started crying? I never forced or begged him to stay or even come over. But then he decided to stay and we had a perfect evening together. Neither one of us have started dating a new partner. I just can't wrap my head around why he keeps coming back, knowing i want to be exclusive but he won't commit. Im very empathetic so I can tell he is hurting, he loves me and something is holding him back. It's just seems to me if we can't stay away from eachother, and every time we're together we both enjoy every second of it, then why will he not try to make it work. I will not ask him this because it's best for me to not pressure him. I want to encourage him to try to make our relationship work again. I'm not dating ( by choice because I obviously still love this man) , he's still the only guy I've slept with since we started dating. How should i handle this? Why would he cry?
Ex keeps coming back around but won't commit?
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