I dated a guy off and on for a year. It wasn't until after we started dating that I found out:
- He's a heroin dealer
- He has no education
- He has a kid & dramatic/ violent tendencies with his ex
- He just recently got off heroin for the 2nd time
- He lives with his parents & sleeps on their couch
- He wasn't able to drive while he & I dated because of multiple DUIs & 9 times caught driving with a suspended license
I don't do drugs, don't smoke, have a great job, nice apartment, and a graduate degree. Why was I dating him? He's like a salesman in terms of being really slick with his words & VERY charming/ funny/ sweet/ generous when he wants to be. At this point in time he & I live in different states. About a month ago he had been talking about coming to live with me - but I was having doubts...
He lived with me before I moved to another state. He was with me pretty much day & night, and while he would he would do nice things like my laundry, clean my cat's litter box every day, & help pay for everything including rent, he 'd also be kind of selfish & controlling in some ways, & fly off the handle in anger if I brought up something he did that I thought was disrespectful.
After I told him my doubts about him living with he, I found out that he is now trying to get back with his ex (who moved to Maryland; he lives in CA). We've been on non-speaking terms... but then he just sent me a picture of himself with his shirt off, flexing and telling me how hot he knows he is. I didn't respond until the next day when he texted me again, asking me what I thought about his body. I told him it was douchey to send that to me, especially when getting back together with his ex. He goes on a long tirade, telling me that I wouldn't have responded to him unless I wasn't over him, and that I need to move on.
Overall question: how would you approach my situation?
Most Helpful Guy
life is better than life behind bars0
Most Helpful Girl
I'm sorry you had to go through that. It sounds like he's trying to provoke you. Trying to get a reaction out of you because even a bad reaction is better than nothing. Honestly after everything he put you through I would block his number and never look back. I know it's hard but it's for the best.1