Basically long story short- my boyfriend of 5 years broke up with me. He actually blocked me from everywhere without me knowing we had broken up and after a week of straight begging, he called and told me that. Anytime I've text him, he's been super mean and just blocks me. I love him very much. I keep begging and begging for him. He walked out after years together. Not even valuing our friendship never mind relationship. I'm going through the hardest time of my life, it's affecting me emotionally, mentally and physically. I'm shattered, it's affecting my university and I'm on the verge of being thrown out and lots of things are happening to me. It's overwhelming. I'm so afraid for my own wellbeing. He is my bestfriend, he means everything to me. He's the only one who was there for me, the one who I told everything to. We had so much together, and he just forgot about all of that. I feel so alone and I feel lost inside and my heart is broken. I don't know to cope, everyday I struggle, I feel completely worthless. I want him back, I don't know what to do. I don't give up on people I love and it hurts that he could do that so easily. I have tried everything possible to move on and distract my mind but the pain and good memories are always there. I care about him and always wish the best for him, I really love him. I pray everyday but I'm so depressed. People take advantage of my kind heart and I just want my true love back. I'm not a strong person. Life is too short for me and I believe that if you have something worth fighting for then you shouldn't give up, but he doesn't want to talk to me. I text him letting him know what I'm going through and that I need my best friend and he just ignored me, I'm so heartbroken and in total disbelief that he would do that.. I'm human after all, I don't deserve that. I did everything for him, I'd always support him and be by his side and now when I need him, he couldn't even say one word..
Most Helpful Guy
What you're going through is very hard, undoubtedly so, but it's what an awful lot of people go through after a breakup when it wasn't their choice to break up. Unfortunately you can't expect anything from your ex because he is now your ex. He has made a choice to not be with you anymore. You can question how he went about that but ultimately he has made his choice and he is allowed to do so. None of us is obligated to be with anyone past the time that we want to be with them. As decent human beings we should try to lessen the impact of the breakup if we can but, again, there is no obligation.
He is not the one to be there for you anymore and you can't expect him to be. You say that you have tried everything to move on and yet you haven't moved on because you are still holding on to him. That is nothing abnormal, but it just shows that you are still very much struggling for any kind of closure. You haven't yet fully accepted that it's over, that the likelihood is that he is not coming back.
Fighting for someone and not giving up can seem very noble but, at times, it's just part of the delusion. You can't fight for someone who doesn't want to be fought for, who doesn't want to be with you. That is wasted effort. You need to stop fighting because the cause is lost. What you need to do is to deal with that and to get past this time in your life and on to better times. Nobody said that breakups won't feel like absolute hell but, similarly, nobody has said that this pain will kill you. It won't. It's normal and natural. It's part of the grieving process and part of the healing process. The pain is making you better, even though it feels like anything but.0
Most Helpful Girl
If he is not talking to you, blocked you everywhere out of the blue you have to let go of him.
Yes you guys had five wonderful years together but now it is over!! you don't need him to be there for you during these hard times that you are going through. I don't think he is worth fighting for if he doesn't care for your friendship.
There are other options here, you might have a girlfriend to talk with, family members to talk with? If you do, go talk to them instead.
Whatever you going through you can go through it!. You might be in this situation for a reason, reflect and find out what that reason is so you can deal with it better.
Instead of thinking about the five years relationship, think about your future you said you are in the university, do you know how many people wish they could go to the university? And you are about to get kicked out? What?
Pick yourself up, get yourself together and fight for your career instead of thinking about your ex that doesn't give a shit about you.
Being depressed because of your ex boyfriend? GIRL FUCK NO!
There is no time to be depressed, if tomorrow was your last day on earth would you go after your ex and cry for attention or try to enjoy it to the fullest? Think like that and DO NOT let anyone fuck your happiness. You can make yourself happy, you are your best friend, you got yourself at the end of the day, If he is not there for you, YOU ARE THERE FOR YOURSELF.
Don't be afraid of anything you can go through this, stop humiliating yourself and stand up for yourself!
Eat healthy meals, go to the gym, spend time with loved ones and study for your career. Stop allowing the depression to affect you physically, mentally and emotionally.
Go on youtube there are videos to motivate you! You don't even need to pay for that advice GIRL!!!
Keep yourself busy and you'll see you won't have time to think about your ex or this situation that you going through. You'll be either too busy or too tired.
Make the decision Girl, is in your hands, you either destroy your self and your life because of THE EX BOYFRIEND AND THE SITUATION or YOU STAND UP AND WITH DETERMINATION AND STRENGTH YOU GET THROUGH THIS LIKE A SAVAGE SUPER WOMAN!
And if you choose to allow WEAKNESS, the person that your begging to come back is progressing in life, he will archive his goals, find himself a new woman, have kids, while you miserable.
Good Luck, Stay strong!1
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