Would a guy let a girl spend the night over at his place if she was not his girlfriend?

Question

He has four roommates and he let me spend the night over his house because I was tired and he sounded concern about me driving home because I was so tired. So he said that I could crash at his place even though he was at work. So I did and he asked his roommate to let me in and I waited until he came home from work. We live in two different cities and I was in his city because I had a girls night and I live an hr away from him. So just curious as to if a guy would do that for any girl unless he considered her to be his gf?

jdcpa · Accepted Answer

Let me see if I get your dilema..

Basically, in order for there to be a dilema, what was done must somehow be in conflict with your belief system about men.

The facts:

- You're not his girlfriend

- He determined you were in no condition to go home

- It didn't cost him anything to make sure you were safe that night & taken care of

- So he offered to let you sleep at his place, where it was immediately close & safe

Okay, so far, the normal thing to do for a guy or girl that isn't a homeless bum, you don't hate, or have any reason to believe they would steal or otherwise destroy your property..

Being in a dilema over this, implies volumes about what (you) think about men, more than how men really are.. How (you) define "normal male behavior" in your mind, versus what normal male behavior actually is..

Honestly, in your system of beliefs that you hold as true, (and therefore create this dilema), is it the case that:

- Unless a girl is a guy's girlfriend.. then,

- If she's in no condition to go home, he's going to try and get her to leave his place..

- If her safety is questionable, either because of her sleepiness or hour of the night, then he's just going to tell her they'll talk tomorrow..

- But in no circumstance will he offer her something as simple & cost-free to him as sleeping over his place for "one" night.. until she can go back to her place the next day..

Geez.. talk about taking something small & making it into a big deal..

If she was staying there for multiple days.. I could understand.. but a day?

icepuffin · Accepted Answer

He'd rather you crash at his place than crash into a stop sign lol.  Just something friends do, regardless if you're a guy or a girl :)

mormongirlmichl · Accepted Answer

yes, any decent guy would...I think that it would be the same situation if your guy friend came to your house, got trashed and wanted to drive... you (hopefully) wouldn't let him because he is your friend and offer him the spare room or the couch... he did the same for you...

Sorry you got a lot of crap for your question... it's annoying when that happens huh? :S

m3TALchick · Accepted Answer

It depends on the situation. I've spent the night over a guy friend's house before; cause we were best friends and we always did that kinda stuff. Your not considered the "gf" label; unless its been made a official. Don't read into it to much; unless its official. You might get your feelings hurt.

applemint · Accepted Answer

I'm not a guy so I obviously cannot vouch for them but I have a feeling he was just being a friend. He was concerned about you and wanted to help you out. That's what friends do. It doesn't mean that there isn't anything else but I think he was first trying to help a friend.

bobblehead · Accepted Answer

Yeah sorry but maybe don't read so much into it. I know its just a question but he seems ilke a nice guy and would rather you stay over then possibly crash. He sounds very nice though.

Ive stayed the night at guys houses before and I was not a girlfriend at all.

icepuffin · Answer

Thanks for rating my answer. :) Ahhh don't worry about it, it's a perfectly valid question, just some people like having their voice heard lol.

However if there was a girl I really liked whom I thought would need a place to stay, she's more than welcome, hell she can even have my bed and I'll sleep on the couch (or with her if I was that bold hehe)... but as long as she doesn't touch my stuff lol. I think the next question to ask would be... how much does he trust you and would you do the same for him? :)

markml · Answer

If it's cool with the roommates, I think most guys would do this...

I once let a friend's girlfriend (who I barely knew) stay at my place for a couple of nights as a favor to my friend, since she wasn't allowed to stay at his place (long story) and had no where else to go.

Unless there's some weird sexual tension, most guys I know would not think twice about letting someone they know crash at their place, whether that person is male or female.

Tdieseler · Answer

yes hon, I've had tons of girls that weren't my gfs sleep at my house after a party without any intentions, I had the space and they needed it.

your friend is either caring or has intentions. and you'll know if he is either of em. if he didn't make a move on you, be lucky that you have such a caring friend.

themastaplan · Answer

sure, I've done it a couple times...with friends, not close friends but friends, its a respect thing kinda ya know...its not like ima be all over her and try to cuddle lol...afterall its my bed if anyone would be uncomfortable it'd be her, but I don't see a big deal over the issue

stalinhornsby · Answer

Only if I knew her from somewhere outside of work and seen her around and talked at some point in our friendship. There is a lot of trust issues here and most of it is that they might have a boyfriend or sticky fingers if you keep money in the house; which most people do. It is a stretch but Yes.

Anonymous · Answer

it doesn't mean anything except that he worries about you because I've slept over at this one guy's house like 4 times and we never consider anything of it. But I do think he's a really good friend  for letting you stay there instead of letting you drive home tired.

selfishstars · Answer

Yes, a guy would let a girl spend the night , even if he didn't consider her to be his girlfriend. He was just being nice to you and helping you out. Sometimes guys just do things to be nice (shocking, I know!). :P

Wilza · Answer

I would let a girl friend (not a girlfriend) sleep at mine for the night, yes. I have had guys sleep at mine sometimes, that doesn't mean I consider them my boyfriends! It sounds like he cares a lot about you.

PeaceHere · Answer

Yes, I think so, especially if she was a good friend. And you did say he was concerned about you driving home. I would let anyone who was that tired to spend the night, as long as they slept in another bed.

Secretgirl · Answer

I sleep over a lot of my guys friends after I've had a lot of drinks with out having sex or anything like that. I just need a place to crash

weisle1 · Answer

A guy will let a girl, that is just a friend, stay the night if she was a better than average friend.  Not necessarily girlfriend but maybe best friend.

Lockjawx27 · Answer

If you ask a guy if you can stay at his place, he is thinking and hoping to god that it means sex. Expect some advances from any guy that agrees to it.

If you don't want to screw the guy, I would advise against sleeping over his house...

CrazynKinky · Answer

It's the same thing. Are you saying you wouldn't let a friend that was a guy crash at your house. It's called being a friend don't try and make something bigger than it is

frankiefrank · Answer

Wait what? He let you stay there because he was concerned about you driving. Why would you have to be his gf?

neronomicon · Answer

i would absolutly let a friend stay the night at my house if they needed it no matter what the circumstances even if it was just to stay the night or they got kicked out of their house

LilMoffTarkin · Answer

I'm with everyone else on this one. I'd let a friend (guy or girl) stay at my place if they just needed somewhere to crash.

Tamikaze · Answer

Yes, a guy would do that for a girl who was not his girlfriend.  You will know you are a girlfriend only when he calls you that.

Anonymous · Answer

hey guys !

what about a guy THAT WON'T let you stay here lol - what's that about?

( she is my friend, he is attracted to her, she is beautiful & I know - he is attracted to her - I know cause he is my friend & he told me )

Eugene · Answer

Sure, why not? There's one free bed in another room. And why only girl? If my friend (male or female) needs/wants to spend the night at my place --  I'm down with that.

boy_lover2011 · Answer

He could just be concerned and think of you as a close friend like family or something doesn't exactly mean he considers you his girlfriend

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