okay so long story short, about a week ago i ended things with a guy who cared a lot in the beginning but didn't give a shit about me towards the end. and he didn't seem to care that i let him go. but now i'm here dying to text him and talk to him knowing damn well he's a piece of shit. i just feel stupid for wanting someone who doesn't care about me so bad. what are some things you guys did to get over people and get over this initial stage?
I feel dumb lmao?
What Guys Said 10
its not stupid... its normal. People have tendency to get attracted to someone who ignores them. more he ignores you more desperate you will get to talk.
be practical... deep down you don't want to talk to him, you are just curious why he doesn't gives shit about you2
finding someone new to talk to, either it's reconnecting with an d friend, or strengthening current friendships always help me get over someone3
I'm in the same position. cheated on by me ex 4 times with the same guy every time. she's ten minutes walking away from my house. he's 4000 miles. It's a shame but the best thing for you to do is to move on. And I understand. you HATE hearing it. I did too. But it honestly is for the best.1
thats is called the honey moon stage, all sweet til the end. just listen to music to condition yourself that hr never actually loved you1
Never go back to someone like that. If you go back he'll control you and who knows where that will lead to, but it won't be nice.1
ingage with someone else u care for u more. u will get over it1
get some series for you1
umm find new pipeline
find new friends
develop a hobby
keep yourself occupied
on the other hand
I do suggest that a text to him would not make much of a difference
you can still be friends you know
it's quite natural that you miss him and the moments spent with him
you'd have been inhumane if you didn't
but yeah a casual hey how are you wassup kind of text
like you'd normally do to a friend won't make much of a difference
np. I sometimes feel hella stupid too0
Not long have I been in this situation. I've had a crush on a girl for a long time and she didn't give me attention (don't ask about me, sends short texts, etc) I kept trying and trying with her to a point where I became desperate. Like even if I had a slight chance with her I probably ruined it by trying to contact her because she didn't deserve my attention and I didn't get her obvious signs. Anyway, fast forward, I realized that I should stop this and SERIOUSLY move on. I act like she doesn't exist. I try to talk to other girls and have fun with my life, I learned my lesson with her because that's important.2
What Girls Said 11
The exact same thing happened to me, he just stopped being as interested as he was. I did message him though and he just ignored and then I realized there's no point the conversation won't be the same as it was and you have to just forget them. Once you go a week without messaging it just becomes easier and you'll forget about them1
Just know that they aren't benefiting your life in any way and even though you want them its because you feel unwanted, we as humans HATE rejection and to feel unwanted.1
i found all his flaws and kept going over and over it with my friends till iy sunk in. i developed a complete understanding of what exactly it was, i kept going through it till i knew it myself. now i want him to see how much better off i am without him, i dont miss him, but i still check to see if he messaged me because i want him to miss me out of pettiness. he is a dick though, i realize the best thing that happened to me was him breaking up with me i wished now i ha ended it months before instead of enduring1
I know that feeling :(
Your hart is just broken I think, and that's such a bad feeling. It takes time to heal.
But whatever you do, don't go back to him. He didn't care about you anymore, while you deserve someone who does.
And remember: you did the right thing, if you didn't end this, you'd still be in a relationship with someone who doesn't care about you (or makes you feel like he doesn't care about you). That's not fun either.
It takes time, but it can also help to do some fun things with your friends.
Dont give in..
You are gonna get through this..1
This sounds like my situation 100% .. hello there nice to meet you we're in the same situation. Sweet heart , don't strain yourself over someone who doesn't care when you walk out the door because it all sums up that they never cared. Don't feel stupid for wanting to put the effort into someone who doesn't care about you as much as you care for them. If someone can't meet you half way you know what happens? You end up getting yourself in a sticky situation which you'll be emotional tied to in the end. It's not healthy and even if he replies.. forgive him but let him go because he's not worth it at all. Fight against temptation. You get over it by not letting them back in whenever they come back. I don't know what you do to get over someone that's not right for you? But I pray because what's not right will always make a left.0
you are not alone in this, i have been through this as well. its hard to let go someone u really wanna be with... what i would suggest is that you meet other guys and hang with your family or frens just keep urself busy and give yourself time to heal from this1
delete everything so even if you want to text him you can't0
delete his number, block him on social media ( if you dont have a way to contact him you wont) Find a new hobby or something (If you are doing new things then you are less likely to think about him) that's how I did it.0
do things you enjoy to keep yourself distracted. find new hobbies and surround yourself with people who make you feel good about yourself0
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