Girls, would you break the touch barrier with a guy you weren't interested in?

[Anonymous]

I need as many opinions and votes as possible, please. The person I am interested in touches me, and lets me touch her a lot. Would she do this and let me do it if she weren't interested? I'm sure that I have heard that all women know the power of touch for men and so won't let a man who they are not interested in do it. I'm talking about hugs, holding around the waist (I do that to her), holding hands, touching and holding face and neck (me to her again).

Also, if she is my friend does that qualify your original answer at all?

I would touch and allow myself to be touched by a guy I am not interested in

I would not touch or allow myself to be touched by a guy I am not interested in

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If you vote option A, could you tell me under what circumstances and why, please?

[LatinDancer07]

The only way to figure it out is to stop doing it for a week or two to see how she reacts. If she doesn't seem to notice then she isn't interested in that way, but if she starts to do things for the attention or she approaches you about it, then you'll either know she's interested or you have your time to ask her and get her full honesty. Guys are not mind readers, that is very true, but neither are women.

And my poll answer was that I would not touch or allow myself to be touched by a guy I'm not interested in. I only reserve that for the person worth my time in that sense. If I'm not looking to date you, I don't fool around with emotions and possibly end friendships because I let them touch me as they would a new gf. So that's my reason for that.

[Asker]

Thanks for your opinion. I did draw back from the touching for a while and I think she became more inclined to touch first at that point, whereas she normally is happy to let me hug, hold, touch her and only hug in response. I like her and would hate to think that she was just using me for an ego trip because the attention was nice but I do wonder whether that is it. I wouldn't touch a woman normally, save the odd hug when appropriate, unless I were involved with her so to me all this touching..

[Asker]

...suggests something more is going on. The danger is that I want that to be true and she may just have a side to her personality that I didn't know was there. I would be hurt if that were the case though.

[LatinDancer07]

Just be honest with her and ask her what all of these actions mean. Sometimes that's all we really can do.

[madcat44]

I think most chicks and guys would agree that they wouldn't touch a girl or guy unless they were interested in them but then again its different for everyone. some guys and girls might do it anyway because that's their intereaction style with people...they might be extraverts...who love peoples attention, kind of like a flirt or people person and that's not a bad thing either. hoped I helped but if she's doing all that to you she must be into you. just look at how she treats other guys and girls...does she touches them the same way she touches you?

[Asker]

I don't think so but, as I said to Tahlzay above, I haven't observed her much with other men and what I have there has never been any public affection shown, including with a former partner of hers. I think this undermines her claim to be 'touchy feely' as if anything I would say she was quite reserved about it, but maybe she is like this with others, just not with an audience.

[babymama2010]

I'm sure there are some hoes out there that don't care what guy is touchin' all on them, but not me! If I don't like you ima be like back the f*** off, man.

[Littletad]

Unless she cared less on who touches her, most women will not let a man touch her repeatedly if she wasn't interested.

[tahlzay]

you said she was ur friend, so maybe not. does she let other guy friends touch her? because if not then she probably likes you. I usually only let guys I like touch me but not always and everyone's different

[Asker]

I don't know if she has any other guy friends. If she does then she doesn't mention them. So, I can't compare. She says that she is a 'touchy feely' person but I have never seen any evidence of this with other people. I knew her a long while before we became close friends and there was never any touching. She hugged me one day, the touch barrier was broken and it has just escalated from there. I don't really know what to make of it, although I do like her.

[tahlzay]

Well what's the relationship like? are you close friends? best friends? or just generic friends? there is no hard fast rule, everyone is different as I already said. generally really close friends will hug and stuff and that's normal for them, regardless of an attraction between the two or not. pay attention to her body language, where does she look when she's talking to you, how does she sit, that sort of thing. does she play with her hair? does she glance at guys passing by or just looks at you?

[emzy-89]

the only reason I'd break the touch barrier with a guy I wasn't interested in would be if we were really good friends and we both knew 100000% that we'd nly be friends and nothing more.

[Confused_Me]

Noo. .i would never let person touch me who I'm not interested it. .that is really cheap!

[Anonymous]

Yes, friendly hugs and stuff. Not like, all the time, but if he's sad or I'm not going to see him for a while. Not holding hands or anything though.

[arikam]

I wouldn't let a man hold me around the waist, hold my hand, or touch my face/neck if I wasn't interested in him. simple as that... even if he was a friend. However, hugging is ok for just friends.

[enlightenment]

def. a good sign...but not a guarentee

[TheStrangeOne]

No I wouldn't.

[Juliana77]

voted B