Why does my ex suddenly want to hang out all of the time?
So my ex broke up with me over a month ago after nearly a year of dating and up until a couple of weeks ago there really wasn’t much contact between... Show More
Most Helpful Opinion
I want you to ask yourself this question for me,
Can you still be his friend if today, he said he is currently seeing/dating someone else?
If your answer is no. Don't wait around for something that isn't promised. You answer means you are still emotionally attached to him(its okay it happens).
I want you to try to move on from this. By staying friends with your ex you are just helping him get over you. As he moves on, you will take an emotional step back. Please don't do this. Be strong, confident and realize that if he wants the same things one day, he will come running. Even if you are not avaliable and dating someone else. So let's speed up that process for you shall we?
Losing you will hurt him more than anything you could ever do or say. So do nothing for him and everything for you right now.
What Guys Said 7
He's lonely and wants you around, but doesn't want to be with you.
sometimes time apart gives a person a chance to reassess what they had - both good and bad. and it seems that he has decided that the positives in a relationship with you outweigh the negatives.
you don't say how you feel, which is probably why he hasn't stepped up to the plate to share the way he feels either.
you two need to have a good talk about what you two are trying to create together and stop dancing around the topic.
Cause he needs a qb cause his starter is out so he's going to his 2nd string which looks like its you
Sex with the ex...
He might of realized that he screwed up and wants you back.
Did you dump him?
It sounds to me he erroneously hopes that by being your friend he will get back together with you. He definitely had some growing up to do to realize that once you put him in the "friend zone" he isn't getting out.
What Girls Said 1
Good for you for turning him down!
That's a very hopeful outlook - that he wants you for the future. But if that were the case he'd be dating you right now. Have you considered he might be keeping you as a back up, or for sex (as someone else suggested). And honestly, staying friends with exes does lead to "friends with benefits" eventually. If you're already starting to question the situation, it'll just get worse. Stop all contact with him, go out on dates with new people, and clear your head.