I don't know how long it will be but PLEASE I'm really hurt and need advice!!! :(
We dated for 1 year and 4 months but it seemed more because we saw each other 4-5 times a week. I'm 24 and she's 22. Everything was going so well!! No big arguments, no jealous outbreaks from either one, etc.
My family is very close and a week ago one of my uncles (the most beloved) got murdered in cold blood. It took a toll on me big time since I knew him since I was a kid and he and my dad were the men I wanted to make proud in my life. She supported me and I guess I wasn't there for her as she was for me. She only has her mom and brothers as family, but they hate her and her mother kicked her out, so she is independent, her dad left them when she was little. So Wednesday she went to see her and her mother told her if she was still in a relationship with me to never go to her house again.
so today she broke up with me because she said that she didn't want to regret losing her mom (she's old) and knowing they weren't ok... her mom doesn't like supposedly because I acted insecure and jealous at the beginning of our relationship but she was my first girlfriend and it only laste like the first month. She also said it was because she felt unappreciated this past week... I told her that I understood but didn't want to break up and offered her time and space to dedicate to her mother but she said there was no future in our relationship? I'm so hurt I didn't expect it and just lost my uncle, my dad lost his well paid job, I don't know how we will be able to pay all our debts... my girlfriend was my strength she was the reason I hadn't given up.
Now I'm just lost and hurt immensely... were her reasons good enough? What can I do?
Most Helpful Girl
Honestly, I don't think her reasons were valid. Yes, I know Family should come first and all but I don't think it's fair to you. When her mom kicked her out, shouldn't she have told her that she didn't like you from the start? Why now, when you two are so deep into the relationship? I feel as though her mother purposely did that. But even so, if she hadn't don't it on purpose your ex had no actual reason to break up with you. If she loved and cared about you as much as you do her, she would've told her mother that she loves you and she won't leave you simply because her mother doesn't approve of you.
Personally I don't you can or should do anything. First of all, she's the one who made that mistake of leaving you for her mom. She chose someone who kicked her out and hated her, over someone who loves her and wants to care for her.
All I ask is that you think about it. Wouldn't you rather find someone else who deserved to have you and you deserve to have? Someone who won't hurt you suddenly like she did?0
Most Helpful Guy
I went though a similiar situation with my ex and my most recent girlfriend, basically she told me (her being the only child) that if it came down to losing her mother or her having to pick bewteen me and her mom that she would choose her mom, and I never asked her to choose with that being said , she being 31 and me being 35 , both adults , i felt that if she really cared about me then she could have told her mom how she felt about me if she reallyy did feel the way she did at all the fact that she never mentioned me to her mom made me question the validation. anyways im drifting off topic basically if she really cares for you then no one should get in the way not even her family after all it's your relationship bewteen you and her not anyone else0