I love him,but he always hurts me,misunderstands me,doesn't listen to me,I am hurt.How can I still love him?I want to leave him,but I don't want to hurt him.Hurting is bad.Please,tell me if there is a good way to break up with him,if there is a good way to leave away from him.
Stop telling him things. Stop trying to make him smile. Stop being so responsive when he talks to you. Don't make out with him anymore. Pretend you're very busy. Start talking with other guys, and hanging out with them too.
Pretend you don't care about what your boyfriend does. Act like he can do anything he wants. Don't show him he can hurt you. Show him that his words are meaningless to you. That you just don't care about him anymore.
If he doesn't get worried, then it's because he doesn't care about you. If he doesn't care about you, then I don't see why you're worrying about hurting him by a break-up, since he won't get hurt.
But if he notices you're acting strange, and acts why, then it means he does care. If he asks you why you're acting strange, tell him you don't like the way he's been treating you. Tell him you don't like that he always hurts you, and how he never listens to you.
If after he realizes this, he still doesn't change, then go ahead and tell him you don't want to see him anymore. Doing this is perfect because this way, it's his own fault and he won't be able to blame you. He's the one who hurt himself, by aggravating you to the point where you felt like leaving him. Also, this way it gives him a chance to redeem yourself and hopefully avoid the break-up by making you want to stay with him.
Does he love you? Then there is no way, what do you mean by does not listen to you? Does that mean he dissagrees with you? I am shocked that you do not want to hurt him, means you still have a soul and feelings...wow you are a good woman. Something he should appreciate, also is there anything going on in his life that may cause him to be stressed or upset? Did some other woman hurt him or maybe his mother is mean or something? Try to find out what it is that is bothering him because there is no nice way of breaking up with someone. If he is doing things that are abusive then there is no reason to be nice also. And most importantly do you listen to him? One person cannot be above the other in a relationship.
My friends going through the same thing it got so bad that he through his shoe at her, and me taking care of her, beat him up and she doesn't tlk to me anymore. Everyone tells her tht he's a bad boyfriend but she's blinded by his love, I hope you listen too me when I say: BREAK UP WITH HIM
once a girl though that I did not understand and misunderstood her , she wrote me a manual , her likes , dislikes, hikups... before you breakup, did you try your best to make him see who you really are and wha you are about ?
Sometimes you need to care about #1, and #1 is you. Yea you'll hurt his feelings, but suck it up and get through it. (easier said than done) Just don't send an email, or text. That is low. Just tell him straight up, "This isn't working, and I don't see myself with you." Something like that.
...How Come He's Gonna Get Hurt If He's Always Hurting You...Tell Him The Truth...Tell Him That You Want To Break Up Because Of What He's Doing...N If He Asked For Another Chance...Tell Him That Its His Last One :)
Its easy you get him to break up with you. You become a controlling, nagging, clingy super bitch he will be glad to get rid of you, his feelings don't get hurt and he is the victum...who is happy to be rid of super bitch...maybe you can make a super bitch costume for dramatic effect... wow you could make it into a movie, superbitch new superhero with awsome powers like, ablity to fart on comand, belch, break the code on his phone so you can check all his messages, stalk him in your sleep ... don't forget to accuse him of cheating on you everday... it shows him you are truly psycho...
Make sure he is in a good calm mood. Let your friends and family know you are going to break up with him, and make sure you have a safe place to go with them. Just tell him you have to leave and you are sorry.
He might try very hard to make you stay, but you have to be extremely strong and realize you need to do this for yourself so that you can be happy. Then just leave. There is no easy way, you just have to decide and then do it as calmly as you can.
Girl you need to tell him exactly what you said on here... Tell him exactly how you feel. There is no good way to break up with somebody but you have to do if for your happiness.
he hurts you but you're afraid to hurt him? don't be. he deserves it
i've been in the same situation. I left my ex and got a new boyfriend I still love and miss my ex even though we constantly argued and he treated me badly but I guess its mainly because he was my first, that causes you to have a emotional bond that can never be broken. I miss him time to time. don't leave him unless you are sure that's what you want and that things can't be fixed
I was in that situtaiton where my ex was physically and verbally abusive. I was 25 and living with him. I just left. No explaining anything. Changed all my contact info. I don't think you can do that since you're probably still in high school. I think normalinda has the best suggestion. Tell him when he's calm, let your family and friends know what's going on (even bring some of them along), and be prepared for him to try any means to get you to stay. Just don't stay.