My girlfriend wants to break up with me because I don't shave.

[Anonymous]

I always had a beard. A day for a special occasion I shaved. My girlfriend think I look better without beard.

Now I want to get my beard back, then she told me: "If you don't shave, I'm leaving you."

I was very surprised, what should I do?

[Anna19]

If its more like a five o clock shadow( link link ), I think she's a little overreacting, I personally find it sexy but even then you could still consider shaving for her from time to time, like already has been said, she probably shaves gor you too downstairs)

If its like a real beard ( link link ) I'd think it's a bit weird, and this is probably what most people think, so I could understand her.

Well if she met you that way, she knew what she was getting into and shouldn't really try to change you. If she didn't, it I'd say it depends: do you not shave because you're too lazy to do it everyday or because it is the is the way you want to look like. If its the latter, I think you guys need to have a talk.

[Asker]

I used to have a beard like your first link when I met her.

I don't shave because my skin is sensitive and because I like my look and also because I'm a little bit lazy :)

[Anna19]

Well in that case I think she should deal with it or go,first because she met you that way and second even tough she doesn't like it, its still not that bad(as long as its all clean) and socially acceptable. If it was like in picture 3 I could understand that she can't put with that even tough you guys met that way. Even brad pitt can't away with it

[waifdoll]

I have to agree with the people who have said that she isn't worth your time if the superficial details are a make or break kind of thing for her...

But, I have to tell you, my husband has a f*cking huge beard, and I LOVE it. I think it's so attractive, and when he had to shave it for his job once, I absolutely bawled. I just do NOT understand why society, and women especially, think that beards are weird, or gross, or subversive. Having facial hair is the natural state of a man's face. I think it's very handsome on most men, and if that's the way you like to wear it, you shouldn't have to shave it for anyone.

(And personally, I hope you don't.)

[Brentley]

Well I think that you're better off without her. If she is willing to give your love up just for physical appearance, well, that says a lot about her. However, it would be nice for you to shave your beard for her. I mean, this is the person that you love. You want to make yourself look attractive for them, and by shaving your beard, you would become more attractive to her. So what do I think? If you want to keep this person around? Do you want to keep her around, knowing that she would honestly leave you if you didn't look like Leonardo DiCaprio?

[rikooprate]

Don't dump her because she wants you to shave your beard. Dump her because she's giving you extreme ultimatums. She's honestly going to break up with you if you don't shave instead of giving you rational excuses why or trying to reason with you to do so? Yeah, f*ck that. If you let her do it this time and get away with it, she'll do it again for something different. See what I'm saying? Nip this in the bud...

[authentic]

Ask, 1. "How come I attract a superficial girl like this?" 2. Do I want to hang around a superficial girl, be it a girlfriend or just a friend?

[selfishstars]

Break up with her because she's superficial and cares more about your facial hair than who you are as a person.

[dudeman]

just shave you f***ing beard man what's wrong with that. I wouldn't want to be with a girl with hairy arm pits you have to want to f*** your partner man what's the big deal

[Anonymous]

I bet she shaves downstairs for you. You could at least return the favour by shaving your face.

[selfishstars]

I might agree with you if he gave her the ultimatum, "Shave your girl parts or I'll break up with you". But you don't know if she shaves or what his stance is on it.

I think that people have the right do whatever they want with their body hair. They're the ones who have to deal with the upkeep on it. Sure, if you have a preferece, it's nice if they don't mind shaving or not shaving, depending on what you like, but it shouldn't be expected and its incredibly superficial to break up with

[selfishstars]

Someone over body hair.

What if a guy you were dating told you that he wanted you to shave your head or else he'd leave you? Should you be expected to shave because he shaves "x" body part of his own?