I had a very hot and cold, on/off relationship with a guy for 10 years. We met when I was 19, and he was 18. Sparks flew immediately...Was very intense for the first month and We were both head over heels for each other. He even told his mom the night we met that 'i think I've met the girl I want to spend the rest of my life with.' He was in the navy, so the relationship after the first month was long distance...calls, letters...This was a few years before email came about.
He'd come back on leave, we'd get close, but then he'd start acting weird, distant and push me away. He'd get very smug, aloof and competitive for some odd reason. We'd fight, then break things off...it was really heart breaking. We'd get back in touch every few years and try again, but it never worked.
During this 10 year span, we'd both been through a marriage, no kids though.
Last time I saw him was 2003, and he blew me off after spending the day together. Was sad, but whatever. I blocked him and other ex's on fb...No need for them to see me or vice versa. last week, he created a fake profile and reached out to me. He sent me two messages...One just said 'hi' under the fake name...I had no idea who it was so I didn't respond. Second message was 'not trying to spark something from the past, just saying hi and hope you're well.' He sent me a friend request too. My response was simple and clear, 'stay out of my life!' I've given him so many chances and it always ends up the same way...with me getting hurt.
Seriously...What is the point of him reaching out to me yet again?
He'd come back on leave, we'd get close, but then he'd start acting weird, distant and push me away. He'd get very smug, aloof and competitive for some odd reason. We'd fight, then break things off...it was really heart breaking. We'd get back in touch every few years and try again, but it never worked.
During this 10 year span, we'd both been through a marriage, no kids though.
Last time I saw him was 2003, and he blew me off after spending the day together. Was sad, but whatever. I blocked him and other ex's on fb...No need for them to see me or vice versa. last week, he created a fake profile and reached out to me. He sent me two messages...One just said 'hi' under the fake name...I had no idea who it was so I didn't respond. Second message was 'not trying to spark something from the past, just saying hi and hope you're well.' He sent me a friend request too. My response was simple and clear, 'stay out of my life!' I've given him so many chances and it always ends up the same way...with me getting hurt.
Seriously...What is the point of him reaching out to me yet again?
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Forgot to mention, early on, we did talk about getting married, but that obviously never happened.
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Pretty sad that no guys have answered this yet...that was my whole point in coming here!
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