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Ex emails me after 6 months saying she thinks about me every day, what do I do?

I dated a girl for just under a year. It was a long distance relationship and we only saw each other every other weekend. Still the relationship... Show More

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  • Well, she's obviously thinking about you. She's probably going through highs and lows, having doubts, wishing you were still together... but then she probably realizes things would never be the same. As much as she might love you and want to be with you, she realizes that now she's going to be paranoid about you cheating again, she'll be insecure all the time... it'll just end up in her not being able to trust you, which is an obvious problem. As much as she may love you, she doesn't want to get hurt again.

    It could be a mix of things, really. You could just leave it alone, or you could persist. It depends on whether you're willing to try it again and accept the consequences of that. Trying it again would mean chasing her down like a madman, convincing her the relationship is worth having again, and then be willing to put up with the possible strains it could have on your relationship. It's a long distance, so you better believe she'll be skeptical, insecure, and unable to fully trust you. Especially at first.

    But if you do choose to try it again, and you accept the situation you'd put yourself in, in the process of convincing her you're going to know when to stop. Maybe she wants to be with you, but won't ever let herself no matter how much you convince her. If she repeatedly says "no" after you explain you're willing to make things better, and willing to put up with the possible trust issues at first and she still says no, just be honest with her and let her go. Let her know you're still open to the idea, really want to be with her but understand if she's not ready or doesn't want to. Just let her know she can contact you at any time about it, and leave it at that.

    You just have to accept that there might be a chain on that door.

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  • I must say that I didn't bother to read your whole novel of a question. I just read your title of question. What I want to sayis, for whatever it's worth, is that you should tell her to cut the crap, she is way to old for it anyway and know that you love her with all your heart and you are very willing to do whatever it takes to make things work between the two f you because you know without any doubt that she is the one and she knows deep down that you are the one for her. End of story!

  • yeah you are right to not email her anymore... though seeking advice from us is not neccessarily your best move. I mean she is in love with YOU, right? So whatever YOU would normally do in response to this situation, if you are indeed meant to eventually be together, is the RIGHT move, the guy that she loves.

    I recommend waiting. Maybe she was drunk, and maybe she DOES think about you every day, but she doesn't want to get back together with you and doesn't want to make you think she does.

    Maybe that will change in another 6 months or a few years... who knows.

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