Wow, I would never forgive my sister or my husband. I would've divorced immediatley. It's awful to raise kids in an environment where parents are not in love. Believe me, my dad cheated on my mom and they stayed together for 6 months after, I was only 6 years old, but those 6 months were horrible. They were doing it "for the kids". That is not a healthy relationship for your kids to be exposed to, or for you and your husband. You definitely need to divorce.
Once a cheater, always a cheater, right?
That good you are a great person to fix your marriage. Watch your husband just incase. You have to mend the relationship with your sister, maybe she will tell you why she did this sounds like she look up to want what you have but went about it the wrong way. Let your sister know that if she does this again that she will be very sorry she did, not that you will hurt her or anything. Mean while, keep your husband in check. You did the right thing. Good Luck! You are a strong women.
MAKE IT CLEAR TO YOUR HUSBAND HOW SERIOUSE THIS IS AND WHAT AN HOW IT CAN EFFECT YALLS LIFES AND YOUR CHILDREN.
sorry about that caps I didn't realize.
I'd suggest communication. Even if you and your husband don't like each other anymore, it's crucial you communicate to keep the marriage going for the kids (if that's what you want, which you said it is). Clearly the fear of him doing something again is there, and if he does do it again, it really is out of your control. What's important is that you do everything you can to make it work.
Anyways, that's just my opinion. I'm really sorry this happened.
Dump the guy! Your marriage will never be the same. It is better for your kids to grow up in a home with a single mother that is happy and loves her kids very much, then to grow up in a house where the mom and dad hate each other. Time for a divorce!
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Is the marriage really fixed? At some point, hard though it may be, you're going to have to forgive and let go. Otherwise, you'll nurse that anger to a nice poisonous bitterness and ruin all your relationships: with your husband, with your sister, and with your kids too.
Take a good, long look at someone you know who is good and bitter, and ask yourself, seriously, if that's who you want to become.
did u get on with your sister before it happened?
A double whammy, so to speak. I sympathize.
leave him.
divorce him.
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