Is that old saying "once a cheater, always a cheater" true? My husband cheated on me with his coworker and though I know he has no contact with her now, I don't trust him and I'm scared it will happen again. Thoughts?
We have been together for 13 years, married for 9. We have 4 kids. We actually separated and I filed for divorce. I halted the proceedings because of my kids...my oldest is autistic and does much better with his dad around.
There are probably some desires that he has that are not being filled in the bedroom. Most men still love there girlfriends/ wives very much. They just get sexually frustrated and look for a release somewhere else. You have to ask yourself, do I deny him even the simple sex session. You can't put all the blame on him if you 2 are not being sexually active enough.
If your married and you want to work through it, then establish better lines of communication and move forward.
There is probably a reason behind his cheating. He has a desire or something. For intimacy, excitement. If that hasn't been addressed I'd imagine he'd cheat again. If everything is the same as before, I'd worry. You could try and fix the underlying reason. If I were you, I would have dumped him when he cheated. You're young and couldn't have been married long. It's a bad sign.
Yikes, that's a tough question. Of course if a person is scum enough to do it once, they are capable of doing it again. But it doesn't necessarily mean they will. When it comes down to it it varies from person to person. Now you just need to decide how many chances you're willing to give, if any at all.
I would have trust issues. I have always believed that if he can make the mistake once he can do it again, but you know him best. Was he truly repentant? Do you think he'll do it again if given the chance? And can you live with it if he does? I honestly don't know what I would do in your shoes.
i didn't even read your description, and my answer is yes, he will cheat again. being a cheater in a relationship is part of who you are, and that isn't going to change no matter how much the circumstances may have. once they do it, they'll do it again. but this time they've learned from their mistakes... and won't let you find out again.