Has the dumpee ever moved on faster than the dumper?
Has the dumpee ever, to the dumper's surprise moved on faster than the dumper? If so why did it surprise you? I was dumped about a month ago and have... Show More
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Okay I'll try and tell you a story now, lol. Bear with me if I get the wrong end of your stick or go off topic or something - I'm known to do that quite often.
Once, when I was young, I had this girlfriend, who I had met online, funnily enough. Well, I met like three girls at once actually, and I hit it off well with all of them, but this girl asked me out first, and I said yes. I was new to relationships back then, lol, so I was actually swept off my feet.
During this time I got to talking to the other two, and I realized that one of them rocked, one of them was...strange, and the one I was going with wasn't really my type of person. But I'm a nice guy and I didn't want to break up with the relationship, and I was also generally too frightened to ask the girl I liked out, in case she took offense or said no, the crushing pain of denial.
Anyway...the girl I was with at the time, decided to stop really caring and started ignoring me, even going as far as to simply respond with 'k' or similar, and stopped talking to me as soon as she came online. I was getting tired of the relationship, and then one day when I signed in she invited me to a conversation with another guy, and revealed to me for the last two weeks (we'd been 'together' like three months) she had been enjoying spending time with her real boyfriend, who up until two weeks ago had been spending time in prison for assault.
Meh. Long story short, she decided to dump me there, with her boyfriend adding sniping comments. I won't go on about what was said, but I didn't go out politely, I'll tell you that. The last thing she actually messaged me was 'Go away!' and I responsed with 'Gladly!' and then..that was it. I cut all ties, except the fact she knew my mobile number.
Then I started up a relationship with the other girl, the girl I am now engaged to and in love with more than anything. She swept me off my feet, and I gave her butterflies, and our relationship just blossomed. But that is talking of the present.
About two months into my relationship with her, the ex started texting me with messages about 'being friends' again. I unblocked her email adress and sent an email, not willing to add her to MSN proper, again. She informed me her boyfriend had gone inside yet again for assault, again. Course, I'll never know if she was simply trying to hurt me, but I was nasty back to her and said, pretty much, enjoy the pain you are in, because it's what you deserve. She had hurt me pretty hard, at the time, anyway.
Hmm. So I'm guessing it is very possible for the dumper to be worse off than the dumped, when it comes to break up. I'm a living example...I think so myself, anyway. :)
I hope I got your question right, lol. Hope it made sense, too. :)
What Guys Said 2
Anything is possible in the f***ed up world of love.
What Girls Said 4
Yes my ex did this. I had to break up with him because he wasn't treating me very well. He had no idea I was going to break up with him and said he was devastated. 4 weeks later there pictures of him and a new girl all over Facebook, which showed me he never really loved me at all. He treated her better than me as well, within a month of them going out they went on holiday. He never wanted to do anything when he was with me. 6 months on and I am still getting over the relationship. He clearly was an arsehole, should have dumped him a lot sooner.
I think the dumpee can actually move on faster because he/she doesn't have a choice and has to deal with the situation. But the dumper has this dilemma rethinking the situation to figure whether he/she has made the right decision to dump the other person!
P.S. I'm proud of you for moving on faster than the dumper!:D
it depends on the breakup itself..
for instance; if the dumpee was cheated on it would take a while to get over it...
Well I dumped my ex, so he was the dumpee. And he got into a new relationship about 4 months before I did. I was a little surprised by it, because until he was seeing her he was still showing up at my house randomly, and telling me we should get back together -.- However if it wasn't for that I wouldn't be surprised though. I knew it was probably gonna take me awhile to find a new relationship because I was being very picky about who I decided to make my next boyfriend.