I Had Sex With My Ex & Now I Regret It!?

[Lola-Bunny-13]

This is the first thing in my life I regret so much.I knew I shouldnt have done it but I did anyway because I missed him so much.My ex came to visit me monday and we spent the whole day together I haven't seen him in four months and we had sex four times yeah a little ironic.and he couldn't keep his hands off of me to save his life, he was showing me all this affecton like a boyfriend would do a girlfriend and he even told me he loved me.(of course while we were having sex) and that he's not thinking about other girls and when I was talking to him I called him hun.it wasnt because I was still into him.I call everyone I know hun.its this thing I do.even when I'm talking to some of my closest friends I call them hun.most of them are guys and they don't have problem with is.but he does.after I said that he says."dont call me that friend." I didn't even mean it like that so why would he assume that I said that out of love.its a fcking three letter word! I feel bad that I even let him back into my life now and I brought it on myself but every time I want to forget him and come so close to being happy without him then he wants to come back.what should I do? It seems like ignoring him won't do anything!

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and also he told me during anger management that he thought of me having sex with someone else and it pissed him off.why doesn't he not want me to have sex with someone else but doesn't want me to be his girlfriend?

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now he emailed me and told me that he was guilty and that even though we had sex and were still friends he was trying to help me with my stress.

[Kickrockslosers]

Lola,

Tell me this is not the same dude yo! You have got to be stronger girl. First how do you go from 'ignoring him' to f'**ing him? If you 'did' him then you weren't ignoring him. And I didn't say ignore him I said change your number so that you don't have to get his text messages.

Stop being a sucker for love. You give good advice to others and I know it's difficult when you give someone your heart, but don't you think it's time to take it back?

Let's run this back straight no chaser

1. He's using you.

2. Disrespecting you.

3. Playing with your emotions because you are weak.

4. He does not love you and does not want you back.

5. You are not being responsible for your life. It's still your choice, maybe you need to take each day one at a time.

6. Friday you can choose to delete his number, text messages and change your number.

7. Saturday you can choose to meet some new guys at a party and talk to them on the phone.

8. Sunday you can read some bible passages.

9. Monday remember that he does not care about you, so you can make a list of all of the things he's done to hurt you. So when he comes around wanting some ass, you can look at the list and slam the door in his face and go out the back door.

[SupraTT]

^^^^ GREAT : )

[still-in-love]

Some guys just don't know how to go about being in a relationship. He probably had no great role models in life, but that's no excuse. What he did was wrong! I think as hard as it is, you need to stay away from him. He is not good for you and even though you still have feelings for him, you need to keep your distance. That's the only way you're ever going to get over him and find someone better who will make you feel wonderful and love you for more than sex!

[Lola-Bunny-13]

Tell him that I have his email...

[mzindependant92]

just block him out lose his number don't answer his calls delete his texts give him a final message like this is it you're out of my life get rid of any form of connection with him any reminders unless its somethig expensive then just either keep it or sell it but don't let him think he still has you hooked or he'll be able to dictate your life and itll be harder to get out of the loop

[SupraTT]

because he knows if you to are together then problems will arise and you won't be happy and break up. He doesn't want you sleeping with other guys because he still has feelings for you and will get jelous

[Lola-Bunny-13]

How could he still have feelings for me if all he wants to be is friends?

[SupraTT]

Its like me and my ex dear, I still love here and care for her but I don't want to be together because I know we will just fight and won't work out. We only broke up a week ago so just the thought of her with another guy would shit me.

Just because I don't want to be with her doesn't mean I don't care or have feelings

[Lola-Bunny-13]

Well all he keeps saying is "were friends and that's all we're ever gonna be." but yet has no problem having sex with me and tells me not to sleep with someone else

[Lola-Bunny-13]

I just don't think that's caring for my feelings at all if he doesn't want me sleeping with someone else then he should treat me better

[SupraTT]

Of course he should treat you better that's why you guys aren't together right ? Anyway you can do what ever you want its his own problem that wants to eat his cake and have it.

I would have no problem sleeping with my ex I still love her and can still tell her that but I know we just won't work out and that's why I don't talk or see her so I can't get over her and not care if she sleeps with 10 guys lol right now it would devistate me.

Do you sort of get it ???

[Lola-Bunny-13]

No because if he cared about me then he would be with me

[SupraTT]

Thats fine we are all here to help : )

Unfortunatly he doesn't care about you as much as he say or makes it out to be

its more of a lust, he still cares but ur right not enough to be with him so you should just move on dear

[Anonymous]

I am in the same guilt boat my ex who dumped me to be single works 3,000 miles away well he was in town this last weekend and of coarse guess who he calls to take him to the airport well we stopped and had a quickie and he said do not tell anyone and we are not together this is just sex I said ok well then he called me like 3 times after he landed and now nothing for days I shouldn't have gave in but I miss him so bad I still do not understand why he dumped me after 2 years

[chels-560]

I personally think that you should either forget him, or next time you see him, just not flirt around to much, just talk and see if he really likes you for you and if you two are meant to be together.

[Lola-Bunny-13]

There isn't much of a point now...he got what he wanted so he should be happy