First, don't beat yourself up. Just come to terms with why you rejected him in the first place. If you don't know why you rejected him, then you can't know why you want a second chance. Secondly, consider whether you want to enter into a potential relationship with a guy who is incredibly sensitive. It's his right to deny you a second chance, but I personally would step away from a guy who dramatizes and internalizes your behavior as though you rejected him on purpose. It is a bit immature considering he appears to allow you SOME precious contact time. If he truly wasn't interested, he'd cut off all contact. You have to remember that the two of you were not in a relationship, and you had every right to be unsure about dating him at the time - no matter the reason. Keeping all of this in mind, do not kiss his ass like you have been - you're only confirming to him that you were in the wrong. You weren't. The timing wasn't right and if he respects you, he'll respect that. Whether or not he still wants to date you, is up to him. Put that ball back in his court by telling him this:
"Listen, I regret not accepting the chance to go out with you. All I can say is that the timing wasn't right for me, and I'm sorry if you felt rejected. I'd love to try again if you're still interested. If you've moved on, I understand and wish you the best."
Then drop it. Don't call/text/stop by. Let him think it over and if he chooses to give you a second chance, he will let you know. The important thing here, is that you don't try to push or manipulate him. You have to give him the power to make the choice. Don't worry about lessening his fear of rejection. Assume he is a perfectly capable man and allow him the opportunity to be one. That is all you can do, my dear.
I don't know if you can. For some guys, you reject them then you are forever cut off.
Don't understand why you said no...I think something like this happened to me once. I was incredibly certain I was going to get a yes based on her behavior( she always would act weird sometimes, bu I always would catch her staring at me alot,would look down and blush and have a big smile on her face when I would talk/approach/walk by her, would sometimes act nervous and couldn't hold eye contact, even asked me to sit down and eat with her a FEW times, but the way she asked was really indirect) but after I asked the girl to grab breakfast after with me a she started acting nervous and gave a really awkward and embarrassing(more for her than me) excuse...
I couldn't understand it at all. I wanted to try again because the thought crossed my head that maybe she was nervous or something or didn't see it coming at that moment, plus I did ask her in front of a few of her friends who I don't even know.But after that weird moment, even though I keep on talking to her now and she still acts weird, its been really, REALLY hard to try and ask her out again, because now I was more unsure if she liked me and confused than ever, not to mention it hurt my confidence.
So if you really wanna get this guy, your gonna have to explain everything to him, because he's probably hurt and really confused, and no matter how many times he thinks about it he won't be able to shake off the feeling that trying again would be a bad idea and would make him look like a creep, because for us to assume that you like us despite a rejection feels like overthinking and irrational.
If I were a guy...i'd ignore you. I approached you as a dating prospect, & you turned me down. So, "on to the next prospect".
Most guys have too much pride to "take back" a girl that rejected them. What is most likely going through this guy's mind is:
...that you're changing you mind because you shot him down to date SOME OTHER DUDE, & that guy rejected you, so in his mind he's your "Plan B", the "second choice", the "backup option". No guy wants to be the backup option.
Imo that is why he's being so cold-blooded; remember YOU rejected HIM. I say move on, because he definitely isn't thinking about you, which in his mind is nothing more than some girl that rejected him.
I may get some thumb-downs for being so blunt & harsh, but I had to say my piece. Think before you respond next time, ok? :)
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I don't know how old this question is, but you probably made a huge mistake!!! He is probably having very bitter feelings over you rejecting him. All I can say is you probably can win him back, but you are going to have to work hard at it. You are gonna have to explain why you rejected him and say "I was stupid'. You are gonna have to beg on your knees, buy him something that reminds him of the time you had as friends and attach a note saying that you would want to be more than friends. When you finally get him to talk to you, you are gonna have to pour your heart out to him. Some say this is desperate, but it actually worked for a few friends of mine (they were rejected by girls they liked and the girls realized they made a huge mistake, they ended up winning them back)
... You have a chance...
But you will have to work at it..
Send me a private message and I can tell you what to do ... if and only If you really want him back.. Because if you reject him again even by acident he will be ticked and it will be over.. Do you understand...?
Also do you understand what he's thinking right now? This is not just about you..
Rejection is never easy for anybody. Trust me he's telling people he's not interested in you anymore as a defense mechanism to protect his pride/ego. You have to make it perfectly clear that you want to go out with him maybe even spell it out for him literally, and if I were you I would do this as soon as possible before he really moves on.
Chances are, it will never happen. You were given an opportunity, it was missed. Move on, nobody likes to be a second option.
i wouldn't give you a chance, but that's just me. and I wouldn't say he has the right to be mad, but he has the right to not like you...
Probably won't happen. He's going to feel like he was your back up plan no matter what you do or say. He's no doubt lost all romantic feelings he had for you anyways. Just move on to someone else like he is.
its entirely dependent on your signals
make him feel that you want him back
then he will be with you
tell him yu don't know why yu turned him down and yud like to do something sometime, simple as that
You don't know why you turned him down if you liked him? Because you're dumb maybe?
Some people can take a hint and no for an answer.
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