He's going through a phase in which he wants to experiment with older women. A few of my guy friends went through this. They like the fact they can attract a cougar; so, please don't take it personal. It has nothing to do with you, but all about him boosting his ego. I know, it sounds a little gross but when we get to 40, we may see what that's like.
Besides that, I'm really sorry for your situation but I think it's important that he stays in your life. Him ignoring you is immature, but you shutting him out won't make things better. He is the child's father whether you like it or not. You don't have to like each other, but you should get along for the sake of your baby. Another thing, don't communicate with him unless it has to do with the baby. I tried communicating with my ex about my feelings, and he didn't respond. It broke my heart, but it made things clear.
I knew of a girl who tried to keep the father away from the child by changing her phone number, and I think that was very cold. What she and her baby daddy had was over, but the child shouldn't have to pay for it; for not having a daddy around. So many people don't have a father due to death or their father disappeared, but as long as this guy is trying, give him a chance to be in the child's life. Your baby boy has a right to be around and get to know his father. He might not say it, but baby's know and want to feel daddy's touch and love.
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I am in the same situation but my ex moved in with his girl while I was six months pregnant. I know betrayal is hard to deal with. Do you have any postpartum depression? Sometimes women become depressed because of the lack of support during and after pregnancy. First if you think you have postpartum depression get help. It helps because I got help and after I got therapy I realize what a jerk my baby's father really is. Start to think about his decisions and he is wrong and you can move on. What man doesn't want to be around his baby deserves karma? Believe me karma will come to him. If he treats his flesh and blood like he doesn't exist is incapable of love. Chances are his girlfriend lacks self respect, because if a women dates a man who doesn't see or take care of his child is a women who lacks self esteem. In the meantime go back to school or take up a hobby whatever it takes to get this pest off your mind. God bless, stay strong and remember the blessing that you have. Eventually you will meet someone who loves you unconditionally but start loving yourself. Afterall if you can't love yourself how the hell you expect someone else to love you. When you start loving yourself you wouldn't put yourself through pain, you reject undeserving a**holes. Take care
You should ignore his ass. It sounds like your on his clock. He only wants to come over when he wants to and you have to schedule his visits around your schedule? That's bullsh*t. First off, you should save all your phone records so that when you bring him to court for child support, you'll have evidence that you tried to contact him and make an civil effort to work things out for the child and that he just wasn't trying. Second off, you should ignore him as much as possible(except for child support) from this point on. If he has any feelings for you, he'll try to talk to you again because people want what they can't have. Right now, don't worry about finding a BF, your job is to raise your child and focus on that. I know it's hard being a single mom, but being a parent is about sacrificing and living for your child despite your own interests.
That's an excuse not having money. If any guy goes to bed with you unwrapped he should know the consequences. He should under all circumstances be paying for his child. Birth control is FREE at planned parenthood. The main thing I am trying to say is, even though you have feelings for this guy, focus on your child and self and put the two of you first instead of chasing after a guy who'should be chasing after you.
are you more mad he has a girlfriend, or that he's abandoned his son? you shouldn't worry about this deadbeat dad in a relationship sense. you did the right thing by filing for child support. if he doesn't abide by the laws, he'll be in jail, hopefully.
as for guys just wanting sex, where are you meeting these guys. don't you have friends that know decent guys you can meet. make sure you're over the loser first before you want a relationship with another guy, otherwise you're just wasting your time.
maybe find a support group where you can meet other mothers in the same situation you are and learn what they did to cope with the situation. eventually you'll meet someone good, don't rush it.
You are ticked off that he has a girlfriend and has moved on after you kicked him out. My ex was the same way. She asked for a divorce and I called her on her bullshit. Now she is pissed because I didn't go back groveling, but instead moved on and am in a solid relationship with a trophy girlfriend.
The fact that I choose to be involved in my kids life is a matter of how I was brought up. I had a great dad. I want to be a great dad. He apparently doesn't. Get your support from him and move on.
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