So from my previous note, me and this girl have been on and off. I really like her but I didn't know how to tell her. A couple of days ago was gonna be the last day I see her in a couple of weeks because we have a break from school. I thought that I had to tell her today because I can't keep this inside of me for 2 weeks. I walked home with her after school and right when we got to the part where we split off and go our separate ways I said: "ok I need to tell you something." She then stopped and looked me right in the eyes. I then told her : "I like you and everything and I need to get this off my chest because I don't wanna wait until the next time I see you to tell you this. And I just needed to tell you." She had a real weird look on her face like she was shocked/confused/ and she said ok... right after I told her I didn't wait for her to say anything else and just left I was too afraid of an answer I didn't want.
Now, I haven't heard from her but I also checked her myspace and she hasn't had a lot of talk with anyone else either. This is strange for her because she usually msgs like 10 people a day. Now I'm just waiting for her to say something to me. I tried going out with other girls but it's too hard I like this girl too much. Should I just wait for her to respond? But what if she doesn't? I don't wanna wait forever. But also don't want to scare her by not leaving her alone. I'm not sure if I should wait for a call/msg, or should I call her? And what do I say? She knows I like her now, and I feel like it's in her hands but what should I do now? Any responses would be greatly appreciated.
Now, I haven't heard from her but I also checked her myspace and she hasn't had a lot of talk with anyone else either. This is strange for her because she usually msgs like 10 people a day. Now I'm just waiting for her to say something to me. I tried going out with other girls but it's too hard I like this girl too much. Should I just wait for her to respond? But what if she doesn't? I don't wanna wait forever. But also don't want to scare her by not leaving her alone. I'm not sure if I should wait for a call/msg, or should I call her? And what do I say? She knows I like her now, and I feel like it's in her hands but what should I do now? Any responses would be greatly appreciated.
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I would say that you were very brave to say it . . . I know when it came time for me to do the same thing face to face I didn't have the guts. You said that you turned around and left as soon as you said it. So I would say that she was shocked (i don't know good or bad) and she wasn't going to run after you because she didn't know what to say and knew you were afraid to hear an answer anyway b/c you left. As to her not talking to you - It is the holidays and I know that about this time I drop off the planet to a point; there are family things and such that sometimes demand your full attention out of expectation. Wait it out, text her or message her and tell her merry Christmas or w/e in a few days, then just hang out and wait. She will talk to you, and if she doesn't address it then let it go - you did your part and you were brave to say you liked her, so if she doesn't take advantage of that , or if she is silly and immature enough to stop talking to you then let her be that way because it isn't right when someone stands up like that to treat them that way. They deserve the same truth they gave you. You might have to move on be prepared for it but just be rational and see what happens act normal and don't worry to much :)
Forget about it Jake, it's Chinatown. Best thing to do is to ignore her and prepare yourself to move on. Either she doesn't like you or she does, but when given the opportunity to respond, she didn't. If she doesn't like you then there isn't anything you can do to make her like you. If she does, then she has to step up. Right now she seems a little weak either way, being unable to respond to you with reciprocation or a comforting rejection. Go out with other girls. It's not too hard. What's hard is putting too much faith in a particular girl to make you happy and finding out that she doesn't care about you. Why put yourself in that position if there are other girls who do like you?
It sounds like this kind of surprised her. If you want to remain close to her I would try talking to her again and let her know that you didn't mean to weird her out or anything or scare her off, but you just needed her to know that you had feelings for her that were more than friend feelings. If she doesn't feel the same way back don't get discouraged, it takes a lot to go up to a person and let you know you are interested in her. It was a good thing to do rather than hold it in for 2 weeks. Just give it a little time and if you don't hear from her just explain your self. If she ignores you then I wouldn't spend anymore time pursuing her because she probably wasn't worth dating if that is how she is going to act. I hope this helps. Good luck with everything.