my boyfriend says he wants us to take a step backwards, but he doesn't want us to break up. I'm not too sure what that means exactly. we haven't seen... Show More
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Well, it's clear that he's unsure about something - but this could be anything: could be you (=bad gossip?), could be the two of you ('growing tired'); could be just him being insecure about himself and/or his future (with or without you). Whatever it is, he's having thoughts he's not willing to share with you right now. However, seeing the length of your relationship already, he should come clean with you on his thoughts/feelings, and if he doesn't the only way is to confront him and plain ask - but yea, you may be prepared to get hurt when he does start opening up(which is the reason why he doesn't wanna talk about it in the first place). Some guys feel suffocated when they spent too much time with their girlfriends - that's even for old ages (midlife crisis). Just saying, it could be better than it looks, but tell him how important it is for you to let you in on whatever he's thinking - and whatever it may be.