I totally agree with you. It seems completely cold for a guy to just cut off all ties.
When a guy does that (as someone else on here mentioned), it's usually because he either just doesn't care about you or because he hasn't healed from the break-up (and more often than not, it's the latter, considering that he wouldn't have gone out with you in the first place if he didn't care about you). My ex started avoiding me after we broke up (things were great between us, but out of the blue an ex-girlfriend of his came back and he realized he had feelings for her, so now they are together), and I'm pretty sure it's because he knows how much he hurt me and can't reconcile the guilt. The few times we ran into each other after the break-up through mutual friends, he was very friendly and acted as if he was interested in my life. I'm sure he wouldn't have gone out of his way to ask me questions and make conversation with me if he hated me.
This could be what's going on with your ex, if you are experiencing the same situation. Just know that your ex hasn't forgotten about you. In fact, you probably cross his mind more than he lets on, as exes just don't forget about each other (whether you still have feelings for them or not). It could be that he has a new girlfriend and doesn't feel like keeping in touch with an ex would be productive for his relationship.
The reality is that you can never be friends with an ex as long as one of you has feelings for the other that aren’t reciprocated. A lot of times, people break up and say that they’ll be friends, but it NEVER happens (and I speak from my own experiences as well as the experiences of people I know when I say that). Being friends means having to listen to your ex talk about his new significant other or even hanging out with the two of them while they’re being all couply and not being considerate of your feelings. It's hurtful to you in the long run. The only reason why anyone wants to be friends with an ex is out of hope that the person will realize what he or she is missing and come crawling back. But the truth is, if you two are meant to be together, he'll make the effort to keep you in his life.
Hope this helps, and good luck! :)
Hope this helps.
Human beings can act strange and be the cruelest of creatures at times, a lot of things we do can't be explained. When a girl makes a man feel good and on top of the world, he gains confidence and self-esteem, and once this happens you can see the worst side of him. I really think that if you want to see a persons true character, see how they behave when their angry, their true colors will come out.
I don't know, usually I start by keeping in touch (generally when I still have feelings for them) and then as the feelings fade so do I! It's not being cold, just losing touch. That isn't to say I wouldn't say hi if I saw them or they contacted me but otherwise eventually it's a case of out of sight out of mind for me.
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It's for two very opposite reasons - and it shouldn't be difficult to figure out which is which.
It's either: he never cared about you, and in most cases when this happens, the "relationship" was short, and he never really committed and was never really close, and you knew it but just didn't want to admit it to yourself, despite there being plenty of signs that this was true.
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It's because he cared deeply about you, and still does, in which case, even if he had good reason to break up, he still has feelings, and it's painful to see you, and hard to fight the temptation (no matter how bad an idea it might be) to get back together with you.
Again, if it's this, then it should be obvious - probably your relationship lasted a long time, you were clearly very close, there were clearly very strong feelings, you probably had lots of memories together, etc.
It's quite rare that your relationship was stuck in the middle where it's difficult to figure out which one it is - but if it's the former, it may be hard to admit the truth to yourself.
I do it when a woman breaks up with me with no reason given and no attempt to fix issues before breaking up. If I'm not worth the effort of working on it, or the respect to tell me what I did or what didn't work for you then you don't deserve to have me in kn your life. So many women are incredibly disrespectful in how they end relationships and then feel entitled to use the guy as an emotional blanket so she can work through the breakup easier, only to discard him a 2nd time once she is healed.
same reason girls do it; to get over you as quickly as possible and to make sure that our feelings for you don't come back.
this also kinda depends on wether you dumped him or he dumped you.
if you dumped him, the ball is in your court to keep contact.
depends on the break-up. For example, if she did something really bad to me, I want her out of my life and never ever want to talk to her again.
Cause you women are boring !
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