How do you know if a guy is completely over you or not?

[Anonymous]

guys prefer.. to answer this girls can to. just want to know the basis of how you would know if a guy is completely over you and what are some good questions to ask ..the guy or whatever.

[Anonymous]

When he shows no interest in talking to you whatsoever. There was a girl who broke up with me and when she did I told her if she ever needed me for anything ever I would be there for her. About a year after that she wanted to hang out with me and I straight up told her no. I don't care if I ever see her again or not.

[Asker]

wow, is this because she rejected you in the first place?.. so you guys can't even be friends..

[Opinion Owner]

Probably does have something to do with her rejecting me but I'm not friends with any girls I used to like. I'm friends with girls at work and stuff but if I'm not interested in them as a potential girlfriend then I would rather hang out with my guy friends than a girl so I just don't make any effort to talk to them or hang out.

[Asker]

wow interesting.. yeah well I did reject him and I mean if a guy rejected me I wouldn't want anything to do with him. but I don't knw I still care about him and that, I hope he will want to see me again one time.

[Opinion Owner]

Truthfully I hate when girls are like you. I hate when a girl turns me down as a boyfriend but still wants to be friends. It makes me feel like I'm being used just for attention but not good for anything else.

[Asker]

awh sorry. yeah I get what your saying.. but the thing was I regret kinda not saying yes when he asked me out but obv I said no for a reason, so. and yeah some girls would use the guy for attention cause she knows he did really like her at one point, and other girls actually care, so depends on the girl

[Opinion Owner]

Well if the guy really had feelings for you he's probably hurting from your rejection so you should let him control how much contact you two have. Don't call him all the time or try hanging out because that might just lead him on. If he calls you fine be nice to him like a friend but if he doesn't call you should just leave him alone.

[Asker]

alright yah well I did text him asking to hang out and he didn't reply.. so what do you think..

[Opinion Owner]

hmmm.. he might be going into self defense mode which means he is not going to contact you unless you beg him to but if you do that he is going to think he has a chance since you're putting so much effort into it. Leave him alone, let him sort his thoughts out. You did the right thing turning him down if you really didn't see him as a boyfriend but us guys can easily have our ego crushed by a girl we really like and the only way to get over it usually is never talk to her again.

[Opinion Owner]

By the way you have a right to be pissed if he never talks to you again but it's life and just the way lots of guys are. It probably isn't your fault he fell for you and everything got all messed up but if you really care just leave him alone and maybe he'll call you maybe he won't.

[Asker]

awhthanks, your right I think. I didn't knw guys egos really got crushed wen they askd out a girl and she rejected him, I thut it was only us girls who got emotional w relationships. but anyways yeah I think I might send him another text in a bit and just say we should really hang its been to long cause that's the truth if he doesn't respond then k.. and if he does than good. I mean I don't know.. and being friends I guees is out of the picture obviously well he is making it seem so but ya

[Opinion Owner]

If you don't mind me asking, why don't you like him as a boyfriend? I'm not trying to guilt you at all I'm just curious since our convo has went this far. If you don't want to tell me just answer---I'm not going there.

[Asker]

not that I didn't want him as a boyfriend, I felt he asked too soon I had heard bad news about him prior.. and plus funny part he asked me when I wasn't completely sober. real smart on his part, not really..but ya. now I just want a good relationship w him, not friends w benefits I won't use him and he can't use me but I just want us to be good ya knw

[Opinion Owner]

That fascinates me honestly. Girls think so much different from guys it just ...I can't wrap my mind around that. I get what you're saying but at the same time I don't.

[Asker]

i defiantly agree, and the same with you. ahh maybe I should just forget about him. he probably is over me anyways, and was hurt by me. so I can see why he wouldn't want to see me. I guees somewhat my loss.

[Opinion Owner]

That is funny I just logged back on at the same time you're on, funny coincidence lol. What I don't get is how he can have enough things you don't like about him or he screwed up that you won't ever date him and be his boyfriend but you still want a friendship with him.

I really really want to know why girls sometimes really like a guy as a friend even though they never want it to go past just friends? What does having a guy as just a friend do for you?

[Asker]

well especially since I know he did like me a lot at one point, I know that this guy I can flirt with and have fun with. not saying id use him because I'm not like that, but its nice to interact with a guy who you know at one point had legitimate feelings for you. and the thing is it was at one point mutual the feelings, I just didn't want a boyfriend and didn't like him thatttt much to make things official. do you understand?

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah I understand what you're saying as much as I can anyways since I'm a guy.

Thanks for answering :)

[Asker]

ha awh yeah. thanks for your input as well

[JayCutler]

some guys like myself prefer the girl to just ask me straight up..dont be a russ about it

[Asker]

true, well I haven't seen the guy in a few months and I've been wanting to see him but he hasn't really initiated in hanging out with me, we've just kinda bluntly talked about it casually, so maybe he doesn't ever want to see me again

[Anonymous]

Break out a Gantt chart and ask him to determine at what point on the time line did his feelings diminish.

[Ashley8282]

Sounds like a good idea!

[Asker]

i have no idea what your talking about

[Asker]

what?

[Opinion Owner]

It's a joke.

[Andypatz]

Did you have sex with him?

[Asker]

nope.

[Andypatz]

You should

[Asker]

uh no thanks