Only with 2 girls that I dated. It wasn't a deep regret though. I realized that the fact that I miss them was insignificant to the happiness that they now have. The small regret that I felt wouldn't have held a relationship together.
One, I wasn't too interested in the time, but she adored me. It was in high school, so splitting up was natural since we were both going our way to different colleges. I regretted it a little because I was lonely, but then I'd remember the reasons that we weren't together. She's happily dating someone new. I'm happier, because I know that I wouldn't have stuck it out too long in the relationship.
The 2nd. was in College. We got really just as she had come out of a relationship with an abuse boyfriend who cheated on her. She ended up having a rebound thing with another guy. We still remained friends. I felt kind of slighted because we had gotten so close, but we hadn't had a relationship. In fact, she saved me some trouble because that fling didn't last long.
A little while later, she contacted me wanting move our friendship further, but I rejected her out of confusion. I regretted doing that a lot because we didn't keep in tough much after that. I still had some feelings for her.
Like the other girl, she is now happily dating someone else. She's engaged and I couldn't be happier for her. It's great to see her doing better than when I first met her. Now she sees in herself what I saw in her. Adding the fact that she's moved hours away, I think I made the right choice.
If I truly regretted dumping someone, things hadn't ended horribly, and they were not dating anyone else, I would try to reconnect with her. I'd realize that I had a lot of work to do to make up for hurting her. But if she's worth swallowing my pride and coming back, that work would be easy.
If things had ended horribly or she was already dating someone who treated her better than I did, I would leave it alone. There's no reason my happiness should come at her expense, especially if I had hut her before.
Most Helpful Opinions
Regretting stuff tore my life apart. I prefer to have faith that whatever I've done, I did it for good reason. I've broken up with people for various reasons, scared of commitment, getting bored in the relationship, being emotionally abused, being too frustrated in life and not wanting to take it out on her... But yeah, no regrets. Having said that I also know people who broke up at some point and are happily married 10 years later. You can only really answer the question yourself. Make sure you aren't merely looking back through rose tinted goggles and remember what went through your mind at the time. Don't regret breaking up due to boredom, you can't stay in a relationship if you aren't happy. Everyone is entitled to be happy. My ex fiance would have done anything for me, but in the end I just wasn't happy. Would you like someone to stay with you if they didn't feel the same way you did? If none of this relates and you do think you made a bad choice just have faith that if it's meant to be it will be and give a shot at fixing it. If not life forked and you have taken another journey, embrace the new trip. Hope this helps :)
I will admit that during several break ups I had some pretty low periods where I was desperate to have this person back... but that always passed and in the long run I can see that every relationship I had ended for good reasons and I am actually better off now. Each relationship I have had has taught me things, and each break up has made me stronger... so I don't regret any of them.
What Girls & Guys Said
Opinion
3Opinion
well I'm the guy its been done to but if you feel maybe something could still be talk to him, what's te worst that can happen. if he's a d*** to you because of what you did then maybe you made the right choice but ull never know unless YOU do something because he doesn't know what your thinking.
Nope. No regrets here. I gave it my all each and every time. I've been disappointed by a number of girls and left them. A number of them still linger around and try to get my attention, but they have never tried to fix things. I guess they're the ones living in regret and that's fine by me. They should not of taken me for granted.
every time I went back I found another reason not to be with them. also, I only missed them when I was lonely anyways.
Learn more
We're glad to see you liked this post.
You can also add your opinion below!
Most Helpful Opinions