Lunch on campus is harmless and if your boyfriend's friends do see you together then let them. If you really are in a solid relationship then this should not rock the boat. You are a mature, independent, and confident woman. This is a perfect opportunity to demonstrate that to yourself and to your boyfriend. Keep the conversation with this guy light hearted, laugh, and show him how happy you are. He'll get the message and understand that you are off limits.
Your boyfriend will admire you because he knows he can trust you and it will just further strengthen the relationship between you. Does your boyfriend tell you when he's hanging out with his exes? If so it might be good to let him know you're meeting this guy for lunch. Honesty is always valued in a relationship, even if your boyfriend appears indifferent to this lunch date, at least you are expressing that you appreciate honesty and openness .
If this guy does become a good friend, keep in mind he's still looking for a girlfriend. Other single girls may actually like this guy. So be sure to step out of the way when that happens. You don't need to excessively text, call, or facebook this guy. He is your friend but you have no claim to him. Still everyone wants to spread love so just remember- Karma, what goes around comes around.
This is just what I would do now if I were in your shoes...
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I agree with the rest. Let your boyfriend know you are going to lunch with the guy, and let him know that he is just a friend. Do try and be careful with this guy though. Don't do anything that could be read as misleading.
All you can do Is just tell him the truth. Tell him why you feel uncomfortable and and that it just wouldn't feel right.
Let him be a 'Hi and Bye', casual-type friend. You don't need close friends who used to be into you. If you want your current to become insecure, then be close friends with the guy. But it should be obvious that he, more than likely, has an agenda. It could be that, now that you have another boyfriend, you look better to him. Just a thought/tread lightly.
Just casually tell your boyfriend you're going to have lunch with a guy you hope will become a good friend. If he makes a cow, then you need to work it out with him because obviously you should be allowed to meet and talk with other guys.
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