So today I come home from work and my girlfriend calls me to ask if I received her Facebook message. I say no, and then she goes on to explain how she wants a "break" from the relationship. That left me speechless. For the record, this is what she wrote.
"I was thinking, and I think we should take a break for awhile. There's some things I need to think about or get over. I'm not even sure about it. I only wanted to send you a message because I felt like if I called you.. you wouldn't believe me and start to laugh. Our relationship doesn't feel right or maybe I don't."
I met her off of POF last August, so we were together for almost half a year. In that time, we never got into one fight, we got along fantastic. She told me I was best boyfriend she had ever had; she would always tell me I was too good for her, she has pretty low self-esteem you see. She had it pretty rough growing up. Her parents split up when she was very young, and she lived with her mom who ended up using drugs. She was then a foster child for a couple of years before her dad was able to get custody of her. She isn't close with her dad at all; she definitely has daddy-issues.
She also suffers from anxiety/agoraphobia, but I have been nothing but supportive. I take her everywhere she needs to go, I even lent her 600+ dollars so she could go to school because her dad refused to help her out. She hates how she has to rely on me so much, and I know she wishes she could be more independent. She doesn't even work because of her anxiety; she on welfare, but hopes to find a job later after she finishes her college program, which she's doing online.
Really, I'm just in shock more than anything. Last night I spent with her was great. She even said something to my dad about how she had to "go through some bad past relationships to find the right guy (me)".
She can also go into these really depressed states. She doesn't see anybody, hardly leaves her room unless I'm over and we go out to do something. So she gets bored a lot, and that boredom in turn really sends her into these depressing moods; how she's on welfare, how she doesn't really have parents, how she has no friends, how she relies on me all the time, how she can't work or go to an actually college in person because of her anxiety...there's a lot. Recently she's come off of an antidepressant to treat her anxiety which went on back in October. I feel so bad for her, and I love her SO much...I just don't understand why she's doing this. Just this weekend she wanted me to come over so bad that she gave me gas money to do so.
She also added to me that she doesn't feel a "spark" between us anymore despite everything has been fine and dandy from the get-go. She Also said that she no longer feels like she can be intimate with me, and she doesn't know why that is. *sigh*
I'm 22 and she's 20. She's the first girlfriend I've had. She always thought I'd leave her first, but here she is, telling me to pick up my stuff now. Go figure.
"I was thinking, and I think we should take a break for awhile. There's some things I need to think about or get over. I'm not even sure about it. I only wanted to send you a message because I felt like if I called you.. you wouldn't believe me and start to laugh. Our relationship doesn't feel right or maybe I don't."
I met her off of POF last August, so we were together for almost half a year. In that time, we never got into one fight, we got along fantastic. She told me I was best boyfriend she had ever had; she would always tell me I was too good for her, she has pretty low self-esteem you see. She had it pretty rough growing up. Her parents split up when she was very young, and she lived with her mom who ended up using drugs. She was then a foster child for a couple of years before her dad was able to get custody of her. She isn't close with her dad at all; she definitely has daddy-issues.
She also suffers from anxiety/agoraphobia, but I have been nothing but supportive. I take her everywhere she needs to go, I even lent her 600+ dollars so she could go to school because her dad refused to help her out. She hates how she has to rely on me so much, and I know she wishes she could be more independent. She doesn't even work because of her anxiety; she on welfare, but hopes to find a job later after she finishes her college program, which she's doing online.
Really, I'm just in shock more than anything. Last night I spent with her was great. She even said something to my dad about how she had to "go through some bad past relationships to find the right guy (me)".
She can also go into these really depressed states. She doesn't see anybody, hardly leaves her room unless I'm over and we go out to do something. So she gets bored a lot, and that boredom in turn really sends her into these depressing moods; how she's on welfare, how she doesn't really have parents, how she has no friends, how she relies on me all the time, how she can't work or go to an actually college in person because of her anxiety...there's a lot. Recently she's come off of an antidepressant to treat her anxiety which went on back in October. I feel so bad for her, and I love her SO much...I just don't understand why she's doing this. Just this weekend she wanted me to come over so bad that she gave me gas money to do so.
She also added to me that she doesn't feel a "spark" between us anymore despite everything has been fine and dandy from the get-go. She Also said that she no longer feels like she can be intimate with me, and she doesn't know why that is. *sigh*
I'm 22 and she's 20. She's the first girlfriend I've had. She always thought I'd leave her first, but here she is, telling me to pick up my stuff now. Go figure.
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