The divorce rate in the USA has been 50% since the 70's and women file for divorce twice as much as men do. The divorce rate goes to 60% on a persons 2nd marriage! I want your opinions as to why there is so much divorce and why women file twice as much as guys do. Are the men or women marrying the wrong person...are there unrealistic expectations going in to a marriage? Does the man change (for the bad) during the marriage...or does the women show her true colors after the "I dos"? and doing so..causes the man to change in an negative way. My 2 cents is only when a womans interest level drops the marriage fails...But many times a man will hang on and stay married even if his interest level drops and he is miserable.
I say its up to men to find the right woman... and treat her in such a way that she NEVER wants to leave!
I have never been married nor divorce, but in my opinion most women, want to live a fantasy marriage where they have a perfect husband, perfect children, they want to be treated like princess, and because life is not perfect they feel disappointed and want to look for the perfect man.
I think that the only people who will succeed marriage are the one who will accept the fact that there will be arguments, there will tough times, and they need each other to make it to the end.
The way they calculate the divorce rate is flawed. It's more like one third than one half and the rate has been getting lower since the 70's. link
I'm not sure why women file for divorce more than men, maybe it has something to do with our higher expectations. We're generally pickier than guys in who we decide to date so maybe that carries over in long-term relationships too. Meaning guys are easier to keep happy.
Also, unfortunately many women do seem to change either themselves or their expectations after marriage. I've heard of a few women making up all sorts of new rules for her husband after getting married. Which I think is completely asinine. Then when their husband can't live up to those unexpected expectations, they get disappointed and leave.
Personally, if I get married I hope I never get divorced.
Most men I've talked to who have been through a divorce will say that while there are problems on both sides, they admit to being most of the problem. This is coming from their mouths. They'll admit that women know how to do more to benefit a relationship, whereas the guys will sometimes get lazy and start thinking selfishly instead of doing things that could fix the relationship. The woman eventually got fed up.
From what I've read, the top reasons for women to divorce is simply "we've just grown apart." It might not have all the much to do with the guy acting badly. She has different interests now. It sounds like they fall out of love just as quickly as they fall into it.