My ex boyfriend and I broke up 3 months ago. A month later, he wanted to get back together and told me I'm the only girl he's ever loved and he wanted to make the appropriate compromises to work things out. I was very happy in our relationship, loved him very much and knew that he loved me through his actions and words. Yet I didn't want to just jump back in the relationship until I knew we could work through things. We talked a few weeks later, and some major changes had happened to him with his school/career that gave him less control over the next couple years of his life. We hooked up a week later. We share a lot of common friends.
The thing is, this has happened 3 weeks in a row now. Every weekend we get together and it is wonderful, but then I realize we're not back together and I feel bad and confused. To be honest, I love him very much and I miss our relationship. He was my sweetheart. And no, he is not perfect and neither am I. We have our differences for sure, and it would take quite a bit of compromise to work things out in the long run.
But I am having a hard time letting go. I love him. I am planning to move across the country to move on with my life and back near family, and he will be stuck in a residency program for at least a year here now, so it makes it hard to even try to work things out. We still have a couple of months left in the same city.
Should I call it quits for good? Let him know my feelings? Give it time and see if it comes back around in the future regardless of these circumstances? He told me it's mutual, us wanting to get together, but if it can't work, I don't think it's healthy. Would it be ridiculous to be together until we have to be physically separated by the distance? I know he's not seeing anyone else or even trying to. He's just trying to figure out his life right now. I miss our loving, committed relationship.
The thing is, this has happened 3 weeks in a row now. Every weekend we get together and it is wonderful, but then I realize we're not back together and I feel bad and confused. To be honest, I love him very much and I miss our relationship. He was my sweetheart. And no, he is not perfect and neither am I. We have our differences for sure, and it would take quite a bit of compromise to work things out in the long run.
But I am having a hard time letting go. I love him. I am planning to move across the country to move on with my life and back near family, and he will be stuck in a residency program for at least a year here now, so it makes it hard to even try to work things out. We still have a couple of months left in the same city.
Should I call it quits for good? Let him know my feelings? Give it time and see if it comes back around in the future regardless of these circumstances? He told me it's mutual, us wanting to get together, but if it can't work, I don't think it's healthy. Would it be ridiculous to be together until we have to be physically separated by the distance? I know he's not seeing anyone else or even trying to. He's just trying to figure out his life right now. I miss our loving, committed relationship.
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