Guys...if you are turned down for a date..will you ever ask again?

[taster]

Some gal recently said that she always turned a guy down on the first date..to which several guys indicated that they did not think that was a good idea. For me: if a female said she had other plans, and particularly if she asked for a rain check, then I would try again...although it gets tougher each time. But I am not a game player and I am going to assume no interest if no explanation is given..I mean how many times have we heard females complain about guys that will not give up?

I would never ask twice

I would ask two or three times

I would ask several times as long as she wasn't annoyed

I would ask over & over until she went out with me or had me shot

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[GoodManDave]

It depends on how she answered. If the hypothetical next time, whenever it will happen, ends with her being VERY nasty and disrespectful, then there's no way I'd ask her out again.

I'd like to think that I have a 3 strikes and you're out type rule, but honestly, it doesn't get to that very often. It's more of a play it by ear kind of thing; if she counteroffers, she gets a chance.

I had a girl who will ask me to coffee. Not a date, but to "catch up." She has flaked EVERY time. Then she texts me some lame excuse for not showing up, and then asks again several months later. I don't contact her at all; and I only offer to join her for coffee if it's near some place I will have to be any way (she has 20 minutes of my time before my meeting 2 doors down from the coffee shop for example).

I generally try to love my life as if "it would be nice if people join me, but I'll still see that movie or go to the event anyway, and still have fun."

Generally, if we're "friends" and I invite them to some event, they get three chances to say yes, or at least counter offer. If it's just excuses, or "I'm busy busy busy" then I'm not wasting my time by repeatedly inviting them to things they probably won't go to.

If they're as busy as they claim (not likely), then why waste my breath inviting them if they're so busy? If they're not as busy as they claim, I don't want to waste my breath or time inviting them to something they won't go to (for whatever reasons). Either way, I see it as pointless.

Now 6 months down the line, if she seems more available and interested, then I might make an offer, but again; it's probably something I'd do anyway.

[Belgie]

I don't have time to waste on time wasters. Anything other than a yes, is a no as far as I am concerned. So I won't bother asking again.

She can ask, and I'll consider it. But I'm done asking after the first no. There's thousands of sexually appealing ladies out there, and I can't be bothered wasting a single day on a girl who's said no already.

If you were barred from a single outlet of Starbucks, for a day, would you decide "Okay, I'll skip my coffee today" or would you just walk across the street and get a cappa-f***ing-chino ?

[taster]

HAHAHA! GREAT Answer!^...(:(:(:

[Darkfairie17]

I think it's okay to turn someone down for a date if they 1) Aren't interested or 2) They are genuinely busy. If someone is genuinely busy and interested, I would definitely say something like "I would love to, but I am seeing my friend that night. However, I am free this weekend, would that work for you?" At least then they are showing you they want to make it work.

I don't like how some girls do use this as a game playing thing. Like rejecting every guy the first time they ask and see if they will ask again. That is just stupid.

I also agree with goflipaburger; I usually give the guy two shots and if he refuses both I move on. No use in wasting your life or time on someone who isn't interested in you. Especially when there are plenty of people out there.

[EPhantom]

I voted 2-3 times, but that would only be if she said "I'm busy" and didn't give much detail or explain.

If she just said no, then I'm done trying, she doesn't want me around for some reason.

If she explained why in more detail, then I would feel more inclined to ask more than three times. but 5 would be my maximum limit even with extensive detail. After that she would have to go out of her way to ask me out and figure out when I'm not busy and where I would like to go, all on her own.

[DiamondKutt]

I actually hate it when girls do this. It makes some guys think that we're all just playing hard to get & that if they continue to harass us, bed for us, & ask for our number twice, three times, or s million times over, we'll actually give them a chance.

I don't know about other females but this obviously isn't the case for me. No means NO in my book & if you proceed to ask me again, I will be very annoyed & I may proceed to cuss you the f*** out because I can be THAT mean.

I think most guys appreciate it when a girl is straight-forward with what she wants.

[DiamondKutt]

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[taster]

Females screw up their own cause when some of them are snotty when first asked...gives all females a bad name...yeah I know that is a massive generalization..but males are going to do it..particularly the younger ones..a polite, but FIRM, "no" should convey the message...if that doesn't work then yeah go ahead and rip them a new a$$hole..(:(:(:

[DiamondKutt]

It's not a big deal. I'm used to it lol but it's still annoying.

[goflipaburger]

The most I have ever asked a guy who turned me down was twice :p

After they reject me twice, I move on. If they want me, they know where to find me. I'm not a desperate puppy, I'm a happy puppy! :)

I would probably ask them why they wouldn't want to go out with me, whether or not I get a clear answer I always end it with "If you need me, you have my number."

[psm357]

For me I will ask a girl out until she rejects me 3 times. This is because a girl's no may means yes or no. Maybe she is not free on that day, or she is not interested in the activity. But if the way she rejects me is very strong, then I will definitely not goanna ask her again.

[queefy]

Nice avatar, taster. Would you consider something like this instead? It's less scary to the younger users here >

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[taster]

Actually I don't agree..while I only look like this while thinking about redheads, we actually have several people on here who are positively phobic about your friends there..o.O

[queefy]

Oh, they're just ugly critters. The ones I'm phobic about are these >

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[queefy]

Oh, and I forgot this other nightmare >

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[taster]

Ugh How dare you get political on my post and make it unattractive but you forgot the worst one of all... link

[queefy]

I was just pointing out more scary avatars, lol

I know Obama is scary, but least he's not as anti-women as the other three nightmares.

[taster]

Not sure where this Romney-is-anti-woman comes from but I will be voting for capitalists

[queefy]

Romney, like Rick, is not a fan of women's reproductive rights. And Ron is not outspoken enough himself -- he's passive and always saying to leave it up to the States, skillfully avoiding his personal opinion on gender matter.

[Operations]

If I thought I was simply wasting my time, I wouldn't ask twice. Once is enough. But perhaps if I thought there was a remote chance, I MAY ask again. But it depends on the situation. In some cases if you ask two or three times you may come across as looking desperate.

[pineappleshortcare]

What kind of moron turns down guys on a first date by principal? But sometimes, actually, often, with today's busy world, people cannot make it the first time you ask, due to scheduling conflicts.

[taster]

Some females take that as a sign of seriousness if the guy will ask multiple times...but then some few females are flattered if a couple of guys beat the sh*t out of each other for the right to date...lol...breed? PMSL !

[pineappleshortcare]

There are also men who are attracted to women that are attracted to these women! Sadly, it seems that some of our inferior kinds are doing the most breeding :(

[taster]

HAHAHAHAHA! Right On Sister!.(:(:(:

[pineappleshortcare]

I think I got some of those pronouns wrong! Although, I am sure there are men who are attracted to women who are attracted to women who like to watch men beat each other up ;)

[taster]

LOL! I knew what you meant..(:(:(:

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

I dunno, it's not in my style to really ask more than once, but it seems to work for others I know. Persistence and confidence apparently can be appealing to women.. but ya.

[Horizon]

Of course I'd ask again later. To me a woman's "no" is simply a "not yet".

[Lj236]

I wouldn't ask again